Editorial Review

just when you thought you were out, they pull you back in.

More than thirty years ago, a classic was born. A searing novel of the Mafia underworld, The Godfather introduced readers to the first family of American crime fiction, the Corleones, and the powerful legacy of tradition, blood, and honor that was passed on from father to son. With its themes of the seduction of power, the pitfalls of greed, and family allegiance, it resonated with millions of readers across the world-and became the definitive novel of the virile, violent subculture that remains steeped in intrigue, in controversy, and in our collective consciousness. ... Read more

Reviews

Awaken the DON in you!, September 1, 2002
The Godfather is, in many ways, not just a novel - it is an experience, after which your life will never be the same again. I have not the least of doubts in calling it 'the best, most influential and deep-cutting that I have ever read.' In its sheer departure from being just a general, run-of-the-mill tale about idolizing a particular individual, the novel presents to us with a ringside view of the workings of the Mafia, and more importantly, the lives of the people who are involved in it, directly or indirectly.

The novel starts off with a quote from Balzac - "Behind every great fortune, there is a crime." That, in effect, sets the tone for the entire novel. Mario Puzo, the author, ruthlessly captures the travails of a New York Don, Vito Corleone, who is, to quote the words of his son, "not a crazy gunning mobster", and his family.

Puzo presents to us an entire array of different characters - be it the short-tempered Sonny, or the dreary undertaker Bonasera, or the ever-faithful Luca, the cool-headed Tom, the 'Turk' Sollozzo, or the pleasant outsider Kay Adams, each character enters our world, refusing to leave. We are impressed by most of these essentially evil people because the story is told in an entirely closed world (of crime) and so we tend to love characters whom we would, in the normal course, detest.

The novel is, basically, about just two persons, Don Vito Corleone and his son, Michael, who after refusing to accept his father's ways, finally comes to terms with the reality and takes up the 'family business'.

Puzo shows us why he is the great author he really is! The character of the Don pervades our thoughts more than most (or almost all) other fictional characters do. Though the nature of his business is violent, the Don is portrayed as a genial, kind and reasonable man. To say the least, the Don is someone whom `every son will look for in his father, every woman will look for in her husband, and any mortal will look for in an inspirational leader.' In fact, the Godfather is what every man aspires to be - a strong, powerful and wise yet cunning genius and family man.

I have not read a better novel - chances are, you won't either! Do not miss the Godfather movies too.

Intriguing. Spellbinding., November 3, 2003
I first read Mario Puzo's THE GODFATHER three decades ago, and the impact it had on me was overwhelming. Here was a rare novel that hooked the reader from the very first page, a novel to be savored and absorbed by the author's grim yet masterful prose.

Through the pages of this book the reader is introduced to the shadowy world of organized crime--more importantly, to the fiercely interdependent workings of the mafia. Deeply embedded in its Italian heritage, it was a culture of unspeakable violence, but it also fostered family, honor, community, loyalty, friendship. Vengeance. If you are downtrodden, or unfairly victimized, all you need do is approach one of the "families" and request a "favor." Proclaim your devotion and friendship, the favor will be granted. And then--even though it may never happen--you must be willing to return the favor.

Or suffer the consequences.

Puzo's novel brings to life the Corleone family, headed by its aging patriarch, Don Vito Corleone. In post-World War II New York, Corleone faces a changing world, but he is still plagued by the relentless "turf wars" with the other major families. Intense pressure is brought to introduce narcotics to the list of "services" provided by his family--pressure that Corleone emphatically resists, to the bleak detriment of first himself, and to those he loves. The subsequent development of the story--of the Corleone's strategy, of the emergence of one of the Godfather's sons to perpetuate the family's power and considerable clout--is spellbinding.

Few novels of the last thirty years have had any lasting effects on our cultural lexicon. THE GODFATHER is one of them. Highly recommended.
--D. Mikels

A Read You Can't Refuse!!!, September 21, 2003
Not many works of fiction can claim to have significantly changed the face of American culture; Mario Puzo's classic novel The Godfather is surely one of those. Look at the evidence: This book (and the wonderful cinematic counterpart) reintroduced the gangster as an American icon. It helped to spawn entire new genres in fiction and films. (Some critics suggest there should be an entirely new designation for this genre and have dubbed it "The Eastern".) Of course, it introduced that classic catchphrase "I'll make him an offer he can't refuse." Finally, it introduced one of the great heroic criminals into literature in the person of Don Vito Corleone (a character reportedly based on Puzo's own mother). Yes, it is true that the movie and not the novel must take much of this credit, but this work is hardly the two-star pulp trash that a few misguided critics have made it to be. It's solid all the way through, particularly the fabulous portrayals of the ruthless gentleman Don Vito and his family, epecially the sons: hotheaded Sonny (whose penchant for needless violence proves fatal), cowardly Freddie (who is spooked by the Don's near-assasination and runs away to Las Vegas), and, most memorably, cool, reserved Michael (who, in the end, proves a tactical genius truly worthy to be called his father's son.) Also, don't forget the fabulous cast of supporting characters: singers Johnny Fontaine and Nino Valenti (read: Frank Sinatra and Dean Martin), and the many minor players such as Luca Brasi and Amerigo Bonserai, who literally owe their very existence to the Don's generosity. And the women!!! Such marvels of strength, tenacity and character presented in blindly obidient Connie, questioning Kay, and the Don's own wife, who knows much more than she reveals. Her tutoring of Kay into the Sicilian way of life ends the book on a high note. Puzo makes these character studies work because he gives each person his own little spotlight; by chapter's end, you know why each one has chosen to become a family member or confidant. The chapters showing the Don's rise to power, subsequent fall, and rebirth are the highpoints of the book, as the newer, more ruthless families seek to destroy the Corleone's sacred honor by forcing them into trafficking drugs. Yes, in the end, it is Michael who prevails, but the action is so good that the climax is not spoiled by knowing the outcome in advance. The reader will want to visit this novel time and again for it's unique perspectives on honor, justice, and The American Dream.

A life in words, so beautiful. I loved it., August 10, 2000
Mario Puzo has forever gained my respect for writing this gorgeous novel and the movie that was the result. Two of the most beautiful pieces of art in this world. One a life of words and the other an epic. Both breathtaking. I saw the movie before reading the book, but I belive they complimented each other. In the book you get a little background on some of the things that you didn't know about it the movie, hey that happens all the time, but here the movie is almost word for word of what this book is, almost a direct translation. I know I am reading a truly good novel when i feel an emptiness in my heart upon turning the last page. This is such a wonderful book. Please if you haven't read or have at least seen the movie. Get the hell outta here and do something about it, yeah you, you're doing yourself such a diservice by just sitting here. God supposedly (I am an atheist) made beauty, so get the freak out there and go experience it. Buy the book, it will make a worthy addition to your book shelf, trust me, just take a chance. Capisce?

A Book As Fine As The Film, March 19, 2000
Before I even realized that there had been a book, I was an avid fan of The Godfather and loved the characters of Sonny, Michael, Vito, Lucca Brazzi, Peter Clemenza, and the other unforgettable faces that made the film great. Then, one day I came upon a first edition of the novel at an antique shop and bought it. I read it quickly (the book travels at a breakneck speed) and with much relish, and when I was done I was satisfied. The movie was good, but the novel was BETTER. Puzo's Corleone family is a well-illustrated, clearly defined group, each member with his own strengths and weaknesses. The storytelling is gripping, the dialogue brilliant, the characters charming. Puzo, in addition to the main bent of the story, delves into the shady side of old-school Hollywood and makes an interesting read of it. For any lover of the Godfather saga, this book is a must read. Check it out, and enjoy!

Trashy, but absorbing nonetheless., March 8, 2000
The canonization of Francis Ford Coppola's two-part adaptation of this book in the film world has made us forget that, upon its release, The Godfather (the novel) was actually considered quite pulpy, and not of the high-art status that the films have achieved.

Personally, I couldn't care less -- Mario Puzo is an entertaining storyteller, and the characters he created were marvellous -- the seemingly docile Michael Corleone; hothead Santino; Tom Hagen, the brilliant lawyer with an identity crisis; Luca Brasi (underused in the film version), the subhuman brute; Albert Neri, a man driven by circumstances into the world of crime; and of course Vito Corleone himself, the elegant mastermind, a man with a dream, a romanticization of the crimelord as a patriarch of King Lear proportions.

The novel benefits from its chosen form. A scarcely acknowledged fact about the Godfather pictures is that much-needed exposition often had to get excised because there was so much back story to each character set up in the book that the film form couldn't handle adequately. You might notice in the Godfather films how Michael's return to America is completely unexplained; Luca Brasi's power and strength are never shown onscreen (he appears at the wedding, then dies in the bar at the hands of the Tattaglias); Paulie Gatto becomes a skimpish character; Genco Abbandando disappears; and Tom Hagen's conflicts about being consigliere are minimized. Even given two three-hour films, the amount of information in the one source novel couldn't be disclosed properly, resulting in huge gaps of information. Puzo's novel does it well, with exaggeratedly elevated language, character behaviour, and third-person narrative. It works beautifully, even given its trashier inclinations (eg. commentaries on Lucy Mancini's anatomy, and the large Johnny Fontaine/Nino Valenti subplot).

Small wonder that this larger-than-life novel spawned the most famous film series of all time, the first entry of which has been called the best film ever made (I have contentions with that). The Godfather can be read as pure entertainment and, if so desired, as literature.

One of the great novels of the Twentieth Century., January 4, 2004
The Godfather is one of the great novels of the twentieth century and constitutes the defining story of organized crime in America. Oh, other novels have and will be written on this subject, some of them very good indeed. But The Godfather stands alone, far above all others of the genre. This is a classic and great novel. Seven stars at least.

This is the story of Don Vito Corleone, whose Sicilian father (family name of Andolini) is murdered by the local Mafia Don in Corleone, Sicily. Relatives spirit young Vito away to America, for otherwise he too will be murdered to prevent the otherwise certain day when he will come for revenge. Vito comes to America and builds an empire of organized crime.

The triumph of this novel is that it explains the Mafia as the Mafia sees itself. As Vito's son Michael explains, Vito (known to friends and associates as The Godfather, a traditional term of respect) sees himself as the equal of presidents, senators, and governors of the states, and sees no reason to be "a fool" or to accept the rules of society that condemn others to (what he perceives as) lives of failure and subordination. Accordingly, Don Corleone rejects the rules of society, the fact that governments restrict the use of violence to themselves, and builds his own society--La Cosa Nostra ("our world"). Within the narrow limits of this world he is more powerful than the government.

The book can be criticized for somewhat glorifying the underworld, but in reality by the time the reader completes the novel the corruption, violence, and destructiveness of organized crime are depressingly obvious.

The other amazing thing about this novel is Puzo's ability to tell an extraordinarily complex story involving many characters in a coherent fashion that never loses the reader with too much detail. By the time I finished the novel I felt that I knew Tom Hagan, Michael and Sonny Corleone, the Don himself, Johnnie Fontane, and a whole host of other characters. Most novels founder in confusion when they try to present so many characters and so many interconnected sub-plots. Not here. Puzo tells his story with superb prose and flawless coherence. From a craftsmanship standpoint, this is precisely the type of novel that all novelists aspire to write. Few succeed. Puzo succeeds brilliantly.

Before reading this novel I had never understood the role of the Mafia in American (or Sicilian!) society, and how complicity by the authorities is what really allow it to function. Puzo did understand these things, and the novel explains with insight and clarity.

This novel stands head-and-shoulders above most other American novels of the Twentieth Century, and is the defining novel about organized crime in America.

Re-reading the Godfather, December 14, 1999
Somehow, I find myself reading this book time and again--it's like an old friend. And as one reads it, one is amazed at Puzo's ability to create characters that are so real in such an atypical setting as a crime family. There is not a single character without his or her own reality--from Mama Corleone who silently watches her husband meet his destiny and still goes every morning to church so that he doesn't go "down there", to Michael, who slowly gets drawn into the family business, and a life very different from the one he had originally planned as a math professor, to Nino Valenti, who'd rather die an alchoholic than be a Hollywood star.

A hairs breadth from a classic, August 19, 2000
This story has remained a fascinating read for more than thirty years...that's a lot of staying power. It misses being a legitimate American classic only because of the idiotic gynecological subplot Puzo inserted into the text to guarantee some prurient readership if the main story struck out. The rest it is a great accomplishment.

An Offer You Can't Refuse..., December 20, 2004
I was surprised to hear that Mario Puzo wrote "The Godfather" after attempts at "literature" hadn't provided enough income. According to the source I read he wrote this book for the money. What can I say? I heard Michelangelo painted the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel for the same reason.

Whatever his inspiration, Puzo's tale is one I couldn't put down. I don't know how many today read the book before seeing Coppola's movie - one of the greatest films by almost any measurement. I read the book back in the 70s before seeing the film, and the movie vividly brought the characters in my head to life. The advantage in the book is that Coppola is able to allow you inside the heads of the characters and flesh out much of the back and side stories. Remember the undertaker who opens the movie, asking for the Godfather to render justice to the two punks who violated his daughter then were set free by the American court? In the book we find out what happens to those punks. The movie star Johnny Fontaine is fleshed out with a little Hollywood Babylon. We get to read the story of the young Vito Corleone and how he came to become "The Godfather" - a story that doesn't show up in until the second movie with DeNiro as young Vito and Bruno Kirby brilliant as the young Tessio. We find out how the Irish kid Tom Hagen becomes like an adopted son to the Godfather and how his intelligence enables him to go to law school and become the Godfather's next Consigliore. We get to find out about the fearful Luca Brasi and why he's pretty much the only man that makes Vito Corleone a little nervous.

Puzo creates a fictional world that is rich and profound and populated by larger than life characters. Only recommended for those who want to read the quintessential gangster novel.
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Editorial Review

A Master Pick-Up Artist reveals the new Secrets of Seduction

Are you tired of going to bars and clubs to meet women and ending up sitting alone?Do you see attractive women you want to meet, but talk yourself out of approaching?Do you get nervous and forget what to say or say stupid things when you meet women?

Imagine being the kind of guy that women are drawn to, who make them smile and laugh with ease.Imagine building rapport with a group of women so you can easily walk away with one of their friends.Imagine creating enough comfort and trust with a woman to get her phone number, make out, and take her home, all in the same night.

In Secrets of The “A” Game, you’ll learn that every shy, self-conscious, or heartbroken guy can meet and attract beautiful women, no matter what you look like or how much money you make. The “A” Game provides you with all of the tools you need to make it happen.If you want to learn the secrets of sexual persuasion so you can approach anyone, build rapport and create instant attraction, The “A” Game was written for you.

The A Game will…

• Explode the myths that hold you back from meeting beautiful women.
  
• Reveal the fundamental secrets behind what women find irresistible.
  
• Teach you how to use your body language and voice to create powerful attraction.
  
• Show you how to easily start conversations with women – without using pickup lines.
  
• Keep you motivated so you can achieve a greater level of success than you ever thought possible!
  

The book’s first half provides all of the foundations to develop yourself into the kind of guy women find irresistible.

• The Rules and Myths that every guy should know about attracting women.
  
• Adjusting your attitude so your confidence is sky high.
  
• Style and grooming advice so you’re always looking your best.
  
• Reading and influencing the female psyche to create attraction and lust
  
• Finding the most attractive women… in places you’ve never even thought of.
  

The book’s second half is pure technique – a five-step approach to meeting and attracting women anywhere, anyplace, anytime.

• Open – Work the room, use indirect openers, playfully tease women and take control of the interaction.
  
• Hook – Demonstrate social value, have playful conversations, and emotionally stimulate everyone around you.
  
• Attract – Flirt like a natural, break the touch barrier, test her interest in you and plan for the Close.
  
• Connect – Build rapport, learn her buy strategy, capture her imagination and accelerate her attraction.
  
• Close – Get her number, get the first kiss, and get her home.
  

Logan guides you step-by-step, no matter where you’re at in life, and teaches you the Art of Sexual Persuasion. With the right attitude and the right set of pickup tips and techniques, you can transform yourself.Be the guy who always knows what you want and most importantly, how to get it. Take your game to the next level.

Reviews

Skeptical at first, but it lived up to the hype, June 28, 2009
I never heard of this book until I saw it on Amazon, but I read a few pages in the Search Inside and took the plunge. I'm glad I did because this book was surprising in how much PUA/seduction ground it covers. I've never found one book that captured all the essentials of the leading pickup gurus, but this book seemed very close.

If you know anything about David DeAngelo, than you'll have a basic understanding of what this book is about. It's like a condensed version of all of that material without all the DVDs and CDs. I'm getting more about of this book than the videos because its so easy to refer back to and re-read important sections.

The first half focuses on getting your look and your attitude where it needs to be before you hit the field. The Myths that hold guys back, the Rules that guys should follow at all times, and adjusting your attitude so you don't get discouraged no matter how good or bad things are going.

The second half of the book is all technique. It's a five part progression that can happen in one night or spread out over a few days. It's Open > Hook > Attract > Connect > Close. None of it is mind blowing, which I think is the point. It's all relevant, detailed, informative advice that you probably know, but forgot or assume it doesn't work. I've applied the tactics in the first two steps, some I have already been using and a few that I added in and it all works beautifully.

It's a big book - 400 or so pages and way too much to read over a week, there's just too much in-depth information to take in a short amount of time. Maybe a chapter a week so it sinks in and you can use little bits of it every day until you're ready for the next chapter... at least that's what worked for me.

Compilation of PUA top material, July 2, 2009
Very large book with a lot of information on PUA. It looks like a blend of a lot of other successful guides and programs with some extra insight. The first half of the book wasn't as useful for me since I've been in the game for a few years, but if you're just starting out or you're shy and have social anxiety, the first have has a lot of valuable info on things like inner game, style, grooming, basic rules.

The second part seems more of a program or process that was very easy to read and comprehend. A few things I hadn't read before, but it was useful just to get everything down in one spot and read the progression from meeting and attracting down to sealing the deal.

I do wish this author had wrote less about the fundamentals and spent more time on approaching women. There was plenty devoted to opening women, but I want more. More openers, more tactics... I'm still looking for a great book dedicated to Openers.

Large book, easy read, a wealth of info. Recommended for shy guys or PUAs who want a refresher on what to do and not to do.

The how-to guide from The Game, August 8, 2009
By far the most comprehensive book on pickup and seduction techniques I've found. Originally thought this book had something to do with The Game by Neil Strauss, but its not affiliated. But after reading both it's clear the The A Game's model and techniques are the same as in The Game. The Game was Neil's story about living in the pickup community, but it didn't include much instruction on the pickup skills he used in Project Hollywood. This book breaks down a lot of the nuts and bolts of approaching, hooking sets, building rapport and attraction, and closing the deal.

Book is split somewhat in half with the first half being foundation material for inner game, style and grooming and basic rules that apply throughout. The second half was much more interesting to me because it took all of that foundation info and used it as the basis for techniques to use in-field. Some of seemed very familiar to what Neil used in the Game including 3 second rule, negging, IOIs and number closing. Probably 200 pages devoted to inner game and another 200 pages devoted to technique. It kinda seemed like two books in one because it's so huge.

My pickup skills definitely saw a bump after I put the techniques in this book to use in the field.

Highly recommended book. I also recommend a great companion book called


Art of the Approach: Game Guide to 101 Unstoppable Openers.

huge book, good info, February 1, 2010
Probably the most comprehensive book on meeting women that I've read. First 200 pages are inner game and the last 200 cover step-by-step techniques on meeting women. I notice some books focus on bars and clubs, but this one covers a lot of other types of places plus bars and clubs. I personally don't do the bar scene, so I really appreciated learning more about how to approach on the street, grocery stores, and malls, just to name a few.

I think what I liked most was that it seemed like it was written by a regular guy who knows a lot about how women think and operate. No complicated techniques or gimmicks, just taking who you and demonstrating the best version of that person. I felt like the author was talking to me and not down to me. No ego at all in the entire book.

I wasn't "just starting out" with this book, but I think it would be a good book to begin with if you're wanting to improve your dating life. The first half cover inner game, but also how to understand women better, how to dress, groom, storytelling and things like that. This is great information that I didn't find covered in other books, at least not as completely.

This book has a lot to offer, I'd recommend it to any single guy.

Delivers The Goods, March 9, 2009
Many promise, few deliver. Logan Edwards' "Secrets of The A Game" is an exception to that rule. Don't let the "Lava-Life" poster-style cover keep you away from the wisdom this book contains. I'd been dating a very good looking woman before I read "A Game". Couldn't get her into the sack though, until I read this book and realized I was being "predictable". When I stopped trying to be nice all the time and became a bit more demanding, a bit more dominant, she asked me to come in and didn't ask me to leave.

I like Edwards' down-to-earth, man-to-man style. He has a good sense of humor too. Made me laugh out loud a few times. He has a good way of getting his points across. When I read "Your job is to create a little sexual tension and minimize all other forms of stress in your interaction," I realized I was arguing about things with this girl instead of focusing on the main objective, getting her into bed. I stopped being so serious about conversation and remembered I was looking for a better kind of interaction.

This guy has a lot of common-sense pointers for shy guys like me who have trouble picking up women in bars or at parties. He explains how to enter a room where you don't know anyone and give the appearance of being right at home. Once I read it, it seemed so obvious. He talks about figuring out a good opening line and following through if there's any interest. Those are the things that I have always had difficulty with.

Oh yes, unless you feel that you need to do some self-analysis, go to the "Meeting and Attracting Women" section on page 164. That's where the "Attraction" technique is really outlined in detail. I've found it very helpful in keeping my love life lively. If there is one negative about this book, it is the length. But no problem, the book has good tips. Just cut to the chase.

very big book with a lot of fluff talk, October 22, 2010
this is really a big book with 2 parts. The first part focus on some general information about women (myths and mistakes men do) and the second part is about some information based on the mystery method (attract-comfort...) Its just ok because i have already read information like this and because i didn't feel that i was <> despite the details of the book. A much better book isHow to Become an Alpha Male: Attract Women and Become Successful at Seduction

A book any shy guy should have in their possession, March 12, 2009
Sometimes the best advice is the simplest advice in the world. Following your own instincts and just jumping into a conversation without the usual safety net we tend to try to take with us in all aspects of life. This especially is true in the love department and for a shy guy who thinks material things are the way to a girl's heart, he'll soon learn they're expensive trinkets and bane to his existence. It's a simple formula which this book has somehow put into written form that boggles my mind that more people haven't written about it yet. Being comfortable in your own skin is the way to go to at least get that first reaction from a woman. A simple 'Hi!' being met with an equal exchange is something most guys aren't used to because they usually have their head down too long to even notice the girl's face, let alone attempt to have a conversation.

I too know this too well, not knowing what to do with girls for a long time, a late bloomer if you will, and I wish I had this book in my teens to wake me up from my self delusion that I ddn't deserve the hottest girl in school and instead went for anybody who noticed me for a few seconds. It took me awhile to figure out that having self confidence, something so simple as that, was the first key to success and just meeting the goals he gave himself was something that made women yearn for him. It''s detailed in the book, showing how one day the author Logan Edwards woke up from his deep sleep of lack of romance and realized he needed to not always be the nice guy but instead showcase the qualities he had forgotten years ago that women found attractive.

The book actually shows a lot of regard toward women too, not blaming the usual 'princess' mindset that most men can't stand and instead shows that he understands that it is ingrained in their minds from years of learning that is the way to be. The whole 'hard to get' game was something to be played and it was now in the guy's court to try it out and it was time to play ball. It also shows that no matter how hard you try, if a woman shows no interest in you whatsoever, you need to cut ties and realize a dead end crush is just that: a dead end. Why keep beating about the bush and being sad for yourself and just find another girl that might be more attractive and into you?

It's a bit more difficult for guys because we don't have anybody to just go to and ask for advice. Most guy friends will just make fun of you for being a pansy, even if they're going through the same ordeal because it's the whole masculinity factor that comes into play. What's great about this book, a manual of sorts, is that it never showcases women as the enemy but as a different side of the coin and who are looking for the best they can find as well. What's so wrong with that? I think it's a positive book with great ideas and showing never to treat a woman poorly but to treat them the way you'd want to be treated.

Being yourself, the age old suggestion, is thrown out the door and instead, learning some basic ways to treat yourself is instead ingrained throughout the book. Open, Hook, Attract, Connect and Close are the 5 steps in the Game portion, a simple guide to remembering what steps you need to know to get a woman. While I read it, I figured it was something so simple that probably the last time it was used was during caveman days, and that's not knocking it; it's embracing it. It shows that if it ain't broke, you shouldn't fix it and the problem is with men forgetting what it was to just meet and greet and getting a chance to be with women. It's become a bit stagnant in the last few hundred years and that's why it has to be changed back, tweaked if you will, to what was working fine before. But I'm not talking about bonking them on the head with a stick.

The myths section is also a great wake up call to men everywhere. Stuff that's been bred into us is usually hogwash and in the examples he gives, you see it from a different perspective which is much needed in today's world. Just being yourself, being nice only, being rich and famous to attract are a few examples from the book that are really an eye opened. He makes a great point about nice guys finishing last and men wondering why that is but continuing to just be nice or turning into bitter assholes. You should be nice but have a mystique about you, not overtly kind because then you become the best friend and that's something this book isn't teaching you. Treating a woman as equal to you is also a big mind blower because a lot of women aren't used to being treated that way. It's usually them being put on a pedestal and in turn treating men as inferior because that's what they're used to. Don't do it!

I don't want to give too much away because then why would you buy the book? Do yourself a favor and pick up the easy to read book. It's got a bit of wit in the writing, so you won't think you're actually learning. But you are learning how to be a player in the 'A Game'.

Here's some advice: Buy the book!

The "How To" of Dating and Relationships, March 9, 2009
This is the ultimate guide to dating and developing successful, romantic relationships. Logan Edwards covers a lot of ground and gives the reader a lot to think about. We all have our inhibitions and concerns regarding our own personal approach to dating and could all benefit from the "Secrets of the A Game".

I'm relieved to find this isn't some cheap, quick approach to getting women into bed with you; it's not teaching us how to become shallow womanizers. It provides real dating advice for those sincerely looking for a real relationship. It covers all the faux pas and inaccurate dating myths, and answers them with a series of tips, rules and guidelines to finding and truly connecting with that special someone.

Regardless of your current dating status and where you feel like you fit in the Dating game, this book covers the A to Z of dating so you're bound to find something that applies directly to you and your situation.

The Attraction Bible, March 5, 2009
After reading the prologue to "The Game," I quickly noticed that the writer, Logan Edwards, has seemingly been through a pretty tough time with life, especially concerning women. Edwards succeeds in reaching his target audience and grabs their attention to read about a topic that most people today are concerned with; their sex lives and relationships. He does this by relating his own experiences of school and college. He describes his lack luster approach to girls and how he tried, and ultimately failed to get their attention.



I'm personally very impressed that Edwards chose to make this book more about understanding women and their behaviors rather than telling lonely guys how to pull a hottie. He tells us that this book is not like a "get rich quick" scheme where you'll be surrounded by women as soon as you put the book down. Instead, he explains the psychology behind the most common problems that guys run into and how to resolve them.



This is not the first book focused on dating and singles that I have read, but it is certainly the most detailed and helpful. No matter what level your game is (or think it is,) I'm sure you will find something useful inside this book.

Giving The Mystery Method a run for its money, March 12, 2009
Logan Edwards has written a near Bible of how to pick up women. The book helps reduce the stress and confusion associated with finding a mate by presenting crisp, understandable steps toward attracting any woman you desire.

It's hard to comprehend the exciting opportunities laid out open for every frustrated man without having first read the book. However, here's a taste of the mind-blowing secrets revealed:

- God-given appearance and wealth genuinely do not matter in a woman's eyes. Attracting women has and will always be about confidence and charisma.

- Bars and clubs aren't always the best places to pick up beautiful women. The locations outlined by Mr. Edwards to lock in a date may surprise you.

- Seducing women, from first encounter to bringing her home, can be done in the span of a couple hours in only 5 steps.

Although Logan Edwards does not use as many real world examples as his competition Mystery, the book never fails to restore confidence in the everyman.
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Editorial Review

MAKING BABIES offers a proven 3-month program designed to help any woman get pregnant. Fertility medicine today is all about aggressive surgical, chemical, and technological intervention, but Dr. David and Blakeway know a better way. Starting by identifying "fertility types," they cover everything from recognizing the causes of fertility problems to making lifestyle choices that enhance fertility to trying surprising strategies such as taking cough medicine, decreasing doses of fertility drugs, or getting acupuncture along with IVF. MAKING BABIES is a must-have for every woman trying to conceive, whether naturally or through medical intervention. Dr. David and Blakeway are revolutionizing the fertility field, one baby at a time. ... Read more

Reviews

Better book than the Infertility Cure!, November 1, 2009
Everyone raves about the Infertility Cure. I read the Infertility Cure then Making Babies back-to-back and thought Making Babies was a far superior book. It is easier to follow and understand and provides more knowledge on dietary and lifestyle changes to support fertility. The authors also email you back within 30 minutes if you submit a question!!!

Why I LOVE this book, August 22, 2009
This is a great resource for any wannabe parents. Among other things it has a long list of suggestions on everything from when to have intercourse, to what foods to eat, even some interesting points on what supplements to take. It also confirms something really important I learned at a workshop given by Julia Indichova, which is that going for the big guns of IVF, before we really understand what's going on with us, can do more harm than good. (Julia's book The Fertile Female is another great book I highly recommend) I also like the idea of a three month plan. The authors are suggesting that you should see some real changes and results in three months and if you don't it's time to move on. I spent years doing acupuncture and a year and a half doing medical treatment and stayed with it out of desperation not because I was seeing positive changes. It was not until I stopped all of that and really started to do my own reading and research that I started getting on the right track that led to our beautiful, healthy, conceived the old fashioned way baby girl. Now we are hoping for baby number two.

Finally, a new approach!, September 11, 2009
I can honestly say I've read every book in my library about infertility, and they all start to run together. This one stands out; I feel as though the authors are much more open to natural conception, rather than drugs or IVF right away. I think we'd all like to conceive naturally if we can, and this book provided me with several ideas and hopeful solutions to my own infertility. I'll write again in a few months if this "three month plan" works for me! In the meantime, this is a great book...I highly recommend it.
Something that really stood out for me was the Making Babies website, where you could send questions to the authors. I wrote in and got an answer from Jill Blakeway that same day. I was so impressed that she took the time to address my specific question, and so quickly! This book and the website are wonderful resources.

Achieving Pregnancy Naturally without IVF, September 17, 2010
Okay, Ladies. I've been told by local IVF doctors in Orlando that I needed a donor egg because I'd never conceive. Well, one day my dad was watching CNN and saw Dr. Sami David (who is a former IVF doctor) on TV talking about how many women can get pregnant naturally, but may need a few clever ways to achieve that in a cycle. For example, if your cervical mucus is thick and not very friendly for sperm, then take 600 mg of Mucinex twice a day around CD 10 - 13 (if you ovulate around days 12 or 13). This helps loosen the mucous to allow a friendlier environment. Or use a little Pre-Seed (Pre-Seed Personal Lubricant - Multi-use Tube) instead of any other lubricant. And the list goes on...

I travelled from Orlando to New York City to meet with both doctors that wrote this incredible book (you can also do a phone consultation along with medical records). Jill Blakeway is an acupuncturist who certainly knows her stuff. With the help of following this book, and understanding my body type and what it needed to create an environment that was perfect for conception, my husband and I were able to conceive NATURALLY within 2 cycles. I started following the book the first week of June, and by mid July, I had a positive blood pregnancy test of 136 on 11 DPO. Mind you, I have a slew of issues: my immune system, lack of progesterone and luteal phase defect, all which are discussed in the book along with many, many other issues. Because of these solved problems, I was able to conceive.

The most important thing for me was conceiving naturally and having both DR. DAVID AND JILL BE SO INCREDIBLY POSITIVE about our wanting to conceive a child. No nay-saying with these doctors. In addition, they are very KIND, KNOWLEDGEABLE, COMPETENT, AND CARING. The book was our bible to conceiving naturally. I highly, highly recommend this book and doctors. It's certainly worth it!

Anyone considering fertility treatment, please read this book!, August 17, 2009
I am honored to be the first to review this essential book for anyone interested in the pro's and con's of natural and assisted fertility treatment. Doctors David and Blakeway do a fabulous job in explaining pertinent, yet mostly overlooked ways to rev up fertility before embarking on assisted reproductive techniques such as IVF and IUI. We (as acupuncturists specializing in infertility) are often seeing patients too late in the game, and hope this book encourages couples struggling with infertility to give natural treatments such as acupuncture and Chinese herbal medicine a try.
My only complaint was there was no listing in the resource guide for the American Board of Oriental Reproductive Medicine, which is the certifying body for acupuncturists specializing in infertility (www.aborm.org).
In short, I will definitely recommend this book to my patients as a navigation guide to more effective infertility treatment, whether embarking on a medicated or natural path (or both).

Should have started here first!, July 21, 2010
This book works. My husband and I began trying shortly after we were married when I was 27. A year and a half later, still no baby. During that time, I read every book under the sun, and faithfully charted CM, temperature, etc...I could tell you my cycles and ovulation to a T, but none of that seemed to help. After I read this book, I took several of the steps given for my body type and planned my 3-month prepregnancy time. I hadn't even ordered the additional supplements yet to help level out my hormones, when I found out I was pregnant. I am now 6 months pregnant with a little girl! I swear that this book and the few things it said to get my body healthy per eastern and western medicine did the trick. If you could only pick one book on fertility, this should be it!

I am pregnant after 3 months!, September 10, 2010
My husband and I tried for years to get pregnant on our own without success. Finally, we turned to traditional (Western) fertility treatments. I was diagnosed with high FSH and my husband also had borderline low sperm count. We were told we would likely never achieve pregnancy "on our own." We were fortunate enough to get pregnant on our first round of IVF, and I was pregnant with fraternal twins. I gave birth at 31 weeks. My daughter was a stillborn and my son was a preemie and was in the NICU for five weeks. I don't regret anything I went through to have my son, but the experience was traumatic and I wish someone had told me all the risks before the IVF.

We tried for a second baby at the beginning of this year, again using IVF. This time it failed, and the doctor had no real explanation why. At that point, I decided to look for alternative advice before doing another IVF and that's when I found the Making Babies program. I fully intended to use the program to prepare my body for another IVF in 6-9 months. Imagine my surprise when I was pregnant at the end of three months!

I am now 20 weeks (having a girl!) and am recommending the book to everyone I know. It was very easy to understand and follow--and I had never done anything like this before. Following their advice, I felt better than I had in years, and I found that I LOVED doing acupuncture; I have continued it through my entire pregnancy because it has been so beneficial.

The book is at least worth a read--and you might end up saving thousands of dollars in the process. Thank you to Drs. David and Blakeway--you have changed my life!

Fantastic book...easy to read and comprehend, December 30, 2009
I generally do not write any reviews for products I've bought in the past but this book was so helpful, I have to share my thoughts. This book was invaluable to me in learning about my body and how the whole pregnancy process works. I took a series of tests a month ago and found out that my FSH was on the high side for my age of 35. My doctor said that I should take more aggressive measures to get pregnant. I was on the path to starting on fertility drugs right away but then I found this book. It made me slow down and think a bit. I started seeing an acupuncturist who also provided herbs. I started doing meditation and just destressing. It's been a couple of weeks, and I just took a pregnancy test and it's positive! Even though I probably concieved a few days before having this book, I'm sure the last couple of weeks of practicing what the book recommended had a lot to do with a healthy implantation phase. I wrote to Jill(one of the authors) via their website asking for advise on acupuncture during pregnancy. Taking her advise, I'm continuing acupuncture during first tri-mester to prevent miscarriage. So far so good.

The options that your doctor never presents...you must read this book!, October 9, 2009
I've had appointments with my ob/gyn and I've had appointments with a reproductive endocrinologist and something about those appointments left me feeling like something was missing. I never felt that the doctors were taking the "whole" me into consideration when ordering tests or prescribing fertility drugs. The dependence on these procedures and pills didn't sit well with me. After reading this book, it confirmed what I felt in my heart, that there truly is another way to approach my fertility challenges. It doesn't have to start with expensive procedures or medication that may or may not be more harmful than good. It can start with taking care of your body, mind, and spirit. In the end, I may fall into the category that needs more invasive assistance to get pregnant, but I will have peace of mind that I have exhausted all possibilities to conceiving naturally. Thank God for the wonderful authors of this book that are able to share this knowledge with us.

The definitive book on fertility and women's health, August 11, 2010
I have endometriosis, to the point where I often need to take two or more days off work each month every time I ovulate and menstruate due to extreme pain. Unrelated to this, I have had four miscarriages and no children. In the past year and a half, I have been poked and prodded by a number of doctors, had 37 vials of blood drawn, had dye injected in my whoo-ha, felt alone and guilty and powerless. This book put me back in control. Using the quiz on the Making Babies Program website, I found I was the Tired and Stuck types. One week after changing my diet, starting acupressure and following some of the other guidelines in the book, I was no longer walking around in a mental fog from being exhausted all the time. That very same month, I was able to lengthen my luteal phase from 11 to 15 days and shorten my entire cycle (which prior to this ran like a Rolex) by 2 whole days. Not to mention the fact that I had more energy than I ever had in my life and was no longer struggling from the daily pain of endometriosis. My husband, by virtue of eating the same food as I, also gained more energy and lost weight. All from ONE month on the program. This month, ovulation again came early (as was my goal), and we are again expecting. Even if I lose this one as well, I finally feel like I've broken the cycle of despair and hopelessness.

My favorite line of this book is that "80 percent is perfection." I appreciate that I don't have to follow the program religiously to make a difference in my health and fertility. Although I will never meet the authors, I feel like they have given me more emotional support and caring, helpful advice than any of my specialists. I'll never go to another book on the topic of recurrent miscarriage. Making Babies is the definitive reference on fertility and women's health. ... Read more

Editorial Review

The first book specifically for daughters suffering from the emotional abuse of selfish, self-involved mothers, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? provides the expert assistance you need in order to overcome this debilitating history and reclaim your life for yourself. Drawing on over two decades of experience as a therapist specializing in women's psychology and health, psychotherapist Dr. Karyl McBride helpsyou recognize the widespread effects of this maternal emotional abuse and guides you as you create an individualized program for self-protection, resolution, and complete recovery.

An estimated 1.5 million American women have narcissistic personality disorder, which makes them so insecure and overbearing, insensitive and domineering that they can psychologically damage their daughters for life. Daughters of narcissistic mothers learn that maternal love is not unconditional, and that it is given only when they behave in accordance with their mothers' often unreasonable expectations and whims. As adults, these daughters consequently have difficulty overcoming their insecurities and feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, sadness, and emotional emptiness. They may also have a terrible fear of abandonment that leads them to form unhealthy love relationships, as well as a tendency to perfectionism and unrelenting self-criticism, or to self-sabotage and frustration.

Herself the recovering daughter of a narcissistic mother, Dr. McBride includes her personal struggle, which adds a profound level of authority to her work, along with the perspectives of the hundreds of suffering daughters she's interviewed over the years. Their stories of how maternal abuse has manifested in their lives -- as well as how they have successfully overcome its effects -- show you that you're not alone and that you can take back your life and have the control you want.

Dr. McBride's step-by-step program will enable you to:

(1) Recognize your own experience with maternal narcissism and its effects on all aspects of your life
(2) Discover how you have internalized verbal and nonverbal messages from your mother and how these have translated into a strong desire to overachieve or a tendency to self-sabotage
(3) Construct a step-by-step program to reclaim your life and enhance your sense of self, a process that includes creating a psychological separation from your mother and breaking the legacy of abuse. You will also learn how not to repeat your mother's mistakes with your own daughter.

Warm and sympathetic, filled with the examples of women who have established healthy boundaries with their hurtful mothers, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? encourages and inspires you as it aids your recovery. ... Read more

Reviews

Oh My God was this worthwhile, November 20, 2008
Reading this book was an incredibly validating experience. I have never written a book review in my life but I believe that this work is essential for daughters of narcissistic mothers. I am 45 years old and have been in counseling for 4 years with a great counselor to address my mom's Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I have had difficulties in the denial and acceptance department; it seems that cognitively I know that my mother doesn't have the capacity to ever be warm, loving, or empathetic. However,I have had many instances where I just thought well maybe I am just the nutty girl and go back into denial. My counselor has spent hours upon hours discussing the harm that comes from being raised by a narcissistic mother. And, yes, I have read many books on narcissism. The difference with this book is that it is written from a first hand experience and includes very specific exchanged between the narcissistic mother and the "still" seeking daughter. In reading this book I must have said oh my God hundreds of times. I made margin notes where I wrote "yep" next to so many scenarios, feelings, yearnings, lowered self esteem, being self critical, the workaholism (I am a practicing trial attorney), and the issues with respect to brothers being treated differently. I am the only daughter and I have 3 brothers who had vastly different experiences with my mother. They are all perfect princes and I am the one that is constantly criticized and judged. For many years I have grappled with my brothers' experience versus mine and it was crazy-making. This book explains that daughters of narcissistic mothers may be subject to projection, jealousy, and envy because you are viewed as her extension (or shadow). It finally made sense. IF YOU ARE A DAUGHTER OF A NARCISSIST MOTHER THIS IS THE MOST HONEST AND FORTHRIGHT BOOK THAT I HAVE COME ACROSS AND IT IS ONE THAT I WILL USE AS A REFERENCE GUIDE FOR GROUNDING AND VALIDATION ON A REGULAR BASIS.

Ground Breaking Book, September 27, 2008
Rather than an esoteric view of maternal narcissism, this author has kept it simple, concise, and very easy to read. The point-by-point outline, stringers and explanations were to put it simply, brilliant. She interjected explanations to the descriptions of what a narcissist is, and thereby gave it a more feeling touch.

I was to discover ah-ha's on each and every page, to see how the behavior of my parent impacted on my life in more ways than I would have believed possible. The pain of never feeling good enough, to beginnings of understanding that I am more than good enough has been an incredible journey. Though often fraught with potholes, backtracking and questioning my own sanity, the good doctor has brought it all around full circle via her book. Suddenly and joyously, someone finally understood! I felt validated and no longer alone on this journey.

To my mind, the chapters on healing were rich with ideas that have ripened into workable solutions that I have been applying successfully to my life; I am looking forward to the future through very different eyes.

While not a full out answer to many of the problems associated with this devastating blow to the ego of a small child, it surpasses my expectations and excites me with the possibilities. This is a book well worth reading for layman and therapists alike. For me, this was a deeply satisfying read.

D.E. Waugh

Finally!, October 16, 2008
Finally a book about narcissistic mothers that describes the subtle nature of emotional neglect and abuse and kills the myth that all mothers are benevolent! It's hard to heal the narcissitic wound when it is a result of emotional neglect and put downs and there is no physical bruise or easy explanation like "my mother is an alcoholic". I've been in therapy for approx. 18 years and still struggle with a lifetime of never being good enough and still being placed in competition with my mother by her (even though she is 80). I was glad to hear that it's okay to have little or no contact with a narcissitic mother, since I've struggled with the guilt about having a mother like her and feel that her distancing herself from me is my fault and I am responsible for the relationship and for fixing it.

One section in the book that I did not agree with was the author's comments that the daughter should not show any anger or frustration toward the narcissitic mother. One important aspect of my healing was to stand up to my mother and demonstrate my separateness and that I too am accomplished. (I had never rebelled as a teenager, since it was essentially forbidden with the unspoken threat love would be withheld.) Even though this turned out to be a threat to her it was important for me to see that I have my own sense of power apart from her. I've also tried to reach out in ways trying to build bridges that would put as on equal footing. This was to no avail but these steps have been important in my trying to build the communication with her and determine I'd done everything in my power to try and make a relationship work. It's even harder to be the daughter of a narcissistic mother when the theological messages coming from her were that disobedient children are evil and she was picked out as special by God from the time she was 8.

This book offers hope and resonated so much with my experience. Those childhood abandonment fears and post-traumatic stress reactions still happen to me but I know where they are coming from and I continue to fight through them with hope.

I am now good enough !, May 6, 2009
Since reading this book I am experiencing a new begining to my life. I am 73yrs. old and looking forward to an exciting new life. I highly recommend this book to anyone who longs for relief from the negative voices carried through life from childhood and from looking for nurturing and love in all the wrong places. An added bonus, if you have empathy, you are not, I repeat, you are not Narcissistic.

Very helpful!, September 21, 2008
Dr. McBride introduces the concept of The Collapse. It was the first time in my life I understood that "punched in the gut feeling" when my mother made some remark about me and my emotional state. I read it in two days and highly recommend it!

Finally Validation, March 30, 2009
I just received this book and I'm almost finished. A lot of it reads true to my own life. Although I don't think my mother was exceptionally cruel she was heavy with the hand and put a great deal of responsibility on me as a child. The criticism never ends. I am an overachiever but can't manage to take a compliment. My self esteem on the outside seems high but in all actuality it's in the toilet. My mother was very jealous of my relationship with my father and has never seemed to be able to be happy about any of my successes. My brother on the other hand was a prince to her and we were treated very differently and still are. I've beaten myself up until reading this book. Finally the validation I needed to deal with the pain of not being able to truly bond with my mother. My ex-boyfriend who is Borderline kept insisting that my mother was Borderline also but the more research I did I realized she was Narcissistic and this book confirmed it. It has helped me to heal, to forgive her, to stop blaming myself and to take a good look at my own behavior towards my children. I can see some of the cycle continuing and I'm working on being less critical and demanding of my own children. This book was an absolute God send and I highly recommend it. There has been an incredible weight lifted knowing that I am not unlovable but had a mother who was incapable of loving. I want to ensure that my children never have to feel that way. It's a lot of work but I catch myself now and I'm able to correct my own behavior.

Strong on Identifying not as good at fixing, August 31, 2009
Since I've known for many years that my mother has NPD, I have read most of the books on the subject and was glad to find one aimed specifically at daughters. Like many books of its kind this one is useful for someone who is unaware or just becoming aware that their mother has NPD. Of the fourteen chapters in the book, most deal with anecdotal information about, how the mothers act, what the daughters feel, and how this affects their choices in relationships and the workplace. Two major classes of daughters, the self-sabotaging and over-achieving are each covered in their own chapters. She also devotes a chapter to the passive father model that is often present in these family systems and talks about how the family achieves the "appearance" of normality at the expense of the children.

Starting with chapter ten she begins to offer therapeutic advice, however there is nothing in those chapters that I hadn't heard before. She brings up a lot of relevant topics like seeking to rediscover who you are and what your values are, describing what it will feel like to be at the point of health. The number of anecdotes she includes in this portion of the book drops off significantly. Where are the success stories??

I think this book is worth having. You will find that the stories ring true and you will probably agree with her approach to working on the issue. The one big draw back is the lack of major attention to the effects of lack of nurturing in infancy. Oddly enough a book called "Why Can't I Be Good Enough: Escaping the limits of childhood roles" was published back in 2003, by Joan Rubin-Deutsch. There are many types of childhood experiences related to NPD, but most of the people I've met describe trauma, poor memory of childhood events and some degree of Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome. I attribute my own poor memory of childhood not to direct abuse, but to a childhood completely lacking in emotional texture.

It wasn't until I started reading the work of Bruce Perry (The Boy Raised as a Dog) that I began to really understand what was missing from most therapeutic approaches. Lack of emotional stimulation in infancy can be at the core of many of the behaviors she describes in daughters and accessing feeling is not just about finding them and letting them flow. When the mother is incapable of responding with empathy to a child's cries, the brain itself can fail to develop certain responses, leaving the child feeling alone and hopelessly different from others. It used to be assumed that nothing could change these patterns but today more is known about these issues, The Brain that Changes Itself by Norman Doidge) and Dr. Bruce Perry's work are at the forefront. I especially recommend Perry's book as an adjunct to this one. You may also wish to read Alice Miller's "The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Affect of Cruel Parenting."

A son of a narcissistic mother highly recommends this book, January 28, 2010
My sister is a psychologist and recommended this book to me. Despite its title, believe me, this book is for any child raised by a narcissistic mother. I have read other books about narcissistic personality disorder and because of my sister am very familiar with the DSM and in particular Axis II, cluster B personality disorders - but the beauty of this book is that it really centers on the legacy effect of the disorder rather than being just another descriptive analysis of the disorder. It explains and demonstrates through actual patient testimonials the negative effects of being raised by a narcissistic mother, then goes on to a recovery process.

If you're reading this you probably know a little bit about this disorder. People with the disorder are extremely self-centered and lack what is perhaps the most important quality of a parent - the ability to be empathic. As a child of a mother who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder you are constantly being given the message that your value is what you do, not who you are. Your only value is your accomplishments that reflect well on the narcissistic parent. Ultimately this message becomes hard-wired in your formative years; a message that you will never be good enough. The book identifies the two most common responses of children - either they become tireless over-achievers who frequently forget to take care of themselves mentally or they give up completely in a "what's the point" fashion. In either route the child caries with them deep dysfunctional scars (narcissistic injury) into adulthood that impair them in many ways.

For many it will reveal the whys behind so many familiar feelings and behaviors. When I read books of this type I underline as I go. I intend to keep this book nearby as a sort of reference book and "gut check" as recovery from this kind of injury and the inevitability of involuntary adaptation of some of the narcissistic traits of your mother is of course a life-long process. This book, however, will get you well along the right road - and if you are a parent it will show you how to stop the legacy. The final few chapters of the book are nothing short of inspiring.

Thirteen years ago I spent more than a year and a half in therapy twice a week for two hours each session struggling with the issues attendant to being the child of a narcissistic mother (mine had the added bonus of being an abusive alcoholic). It is not hyperbole to say that for about 1/10th the cost of one session with a psychologist this book could have taken six months off of that time. Don't get me wrong there is no substitute for a good therapist - but this book will literally jump start you into recovery.

Highest Praise for a book that Grants Freedom, December 28, 2008
After years of therapy followed by twenty years of no-contact with my disturbingly problematic mother, all of the broken pieces of understanding finally came together when I read this book. Historical and philosophical analysis of narcissistic personalities has its place, but rarely does the associated jargon help the victim come out from their denial, let alone give them a clue about how to live differently. This book does that. Not only did the truth of my mother's issues finally sink in, but I discovered for the first time the dynamics between my siblings. More importantly, I found a compassion that I never thought could exist. I finally feel free. If there was anything missing from this book, it might be a better understanding of why all of the children of these personalities are not equally targeted by the Narcissistic mother. Despite that, I cannot recommend this book highly enough. Thank you, Ms. McBride for your dedication on this subject.

A must have!, October 7, 2008
This is an excellent book. It changed completely my perception of narcissism. I always took "narcissism" literally. ie someone who cared about their appearance.... This book was painfully and thankfully close to the bone. I feel I can deal much better with my Mother but I also see how it effected my brothers as well. I used to feel very alone with this and finally at 47 I realize there are a lot of us out there. Thank you Thank you Karyl McBride! ... Read more

Editorial Review

Share with your grandchild the exciting, emotional, amusing, embarrassing, and interesting moments of your life with the "story of you." --Andy and Susan Hilford

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For the fifteen million grandmothers who are keepers of family history and memories, The Grandmother Book is a lively and timely way to record your story for future generations.

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* Andy and Susan Hilford present the perfect way for grandmothers of all ages to pass along a grandmother's story.� The story is one that recounts coming-of-age moments, life-changing events, a look back at what was, family anecdotes and historical insight.� With thoughtful, surprising, at times unexpected, and provocative questions, this book is directed to the new generation of baby boomer grandmothers. From early memories of her childhood, to the time she began her own family, to the present as she watches her family continue to grow, this valuable, prompted keepsake ensures that the thoughts, moments, events, images, and ideas that shaped her life are collected in her voice and in her hand for a precious audience.

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* This grandmother's book of memories includes spaces for special photographs, report cards, family tree, and other cherished memorabilia and keepsakes, along with thoughtful, amusing, memory-nudging prompts to kick-start grandmother's storytelling

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* A perfect gift on Grandparent's Day, Mother's Day, wedding anniversaries, and birthdays, the book's hardcover binding and decorative four color art ensure its status as a written family treasure for generations to come. ... Read more

Editorial Review

The inspiring conclusion to A Child Called "It"and The Lost Boy

"All those years you tried your best tobreak me, and I'm still here.One day you'll see, I'm going to makesomething of myself."--Dave Pelzer, from A Man NamedDave

These words were Dave Pelzer's declaration of independenceto his mother, and they represented the ultimate act ofself-reliance. Dave's father never intervened as his mother abused himwith shocking brutality, denying him food and clothing, torturing himin any way she could imagine. This was the woman who told her son shecould kill him any time she wanted to-and nearly did. The more thantwo million readers of Pelzer's previous international bestsellers,A Child Called "It" and The Lost Boy, know that he livedto tell his courageous story. A Man Named Dave is the grippingconclusion to his inspirational trilogy. With stunning generosity ofspirit, Dave Pelzer invites readers on his journey to discover how heturned shame into pride and rejection into acceptance. ... Read more

Reviews

Power of Forgivness, April 20, 2001
The book show the power of forgiveness. This principle works with abuse and is actually the only cure for abuse. I picked this little nuggett up in the book An Encounter With A Prophet and found it a powerful tool in dealing with my past. The man named David illustrates this point very well for those open to the concept. I loved the book.

Best of the Three, October 8, 2000
This book is about the compassion and forgiveness the author finds in the face of horrible abuse. In the first two book we all felt the author's natural reactions to his abuse. Now in the third book the author gives us the solution. Not the solution to abuse but the solution for all victims of abuse - compassion and forgiveness. I did not get this understanding until after I read the book An Encounter With A Prophet which more explicitly shows how to accomplish the solution.

The trilogy is complete, January 20, 2000
I discovered the David Pelzer books after seeing him on the Montel Williams show. I was so horrified by his story. . . and my heart went out to A Child Called It.

And I bought the book.

I've read all three. David's survival is truly a triumph. Most people would not have continued to live, let alone rise above the problems, let alone be able to talk about them.

David's tales are comparable to the horror stories of the Holocaust - except that the villain in his stories was someone who was supposed to love him. I do wish that I had found out exactly WHAT had triggered David's mother. If the only stimulation for her actions was alcohol, then this series may be the most powerful lesson in the world against liquor.

I appreciate David's sharing his story with us. It's one more reason to be grateful every day.

David Pelzer is a true hero and his books are inspirational, November 20, 1999
I quickly read David Pelzer's three amazing and inspirational books. I am a special needs teacher who has witnessed many cases of abuse and neglect involving children. David's book provides hope for all educators who try to help children that come from homes that do not provide even the basic needs for their children. There is a light at the end of the tunnel for children who need help. David's story is an example of an exceptional person who picks himself up and dusts himself off to become a true hero and wonderful example to many. David's mother was a sick individual who tried her best to make her childrens lives as pathetic as her own. She did not succeed and I wish she were alive today to face the consequences of her actions. I admire David's ability to forgive and be there for his father as he lay dying in a hospital bed. David's father in my eyes was a weak person who failed to provide basic safety for his children. David's father was as much a villian as his mother. It would be wonderful to see how David's brothers have weathered the storm of their unacceptable childhood. I wish all the best to David and his family. It is nice to read such a sad story that concludes with a happy ending and a bright future.

Hope and forgiveness, May 30, 2001
I bought A Man Named Dave after skimming the first of his three books, A Child Called It, and having a hard time controlling my emotions in the bookstore! I kept wondering how a previously happy, loving mother could turn into the kind of monster who would so demean and damage her own child. These are the same questions that Dave Pelzer as an adult sought to understand, and he tells that part of his story in this third book. You read enough of his flashbacks to understand the kind of hell he lived through with his mother, and the turmoil of foster care (detailed in the second book, The Lost Boy), but you also see the hopeful results of his survival. Dave is honest about the damage his past did to his self-image and relationships, but this is definitely a happy-ending story! Reading it, you find yourself rooting for him to succeed in the Air Force, in his efforts to help other abused children, and in building his own family. The ideas here are old-fashioned ones: hard work, perserverance, courage, and self-sacrifice. This is a story which will deeply affect you. It's a reminder that there are children in our own neighborhoods who may be in desperate need. It's also a call that no matter how you've suffered, you can still take responsibility for your life and turn suffering into compassion. Dave Pelzer is a true hero and his story is well worth reading and taking to heart.

WORDS OF FORGIVENESS, PEACE AND LOVE AT LAST., February 21, 2001
If my fairy god-mother granted me once wish, and I could spend a day with any person in the world, living or deceased, I would choose to spend a day with David Pelzer, for his wisdom, courage, humanity and ability to forgive. In this third book of David's trilogy, the adult years, he shows us the true meaning of forgiveness. He is living proof that until one can honestly look into their heart and forgive the abuser, one cannot truly begin to heal. With that healing process, comes peace of mind, self-worth and the realization that the world can become as beautiful and fulfilling as you choose to make it.

"All those years you tried your best to break me, and I'm still here. One day you'll see, I'm going to make something of myself." Those are David's words. How many other survivors have said those same words? It is what keeps the spirit alive. As adults, child abuse survivors are often high achievers not only because of their need to please, be accepted and loved, but because of their determination not to let the abuser "win the battle." David Pelzer won his battle. To forgive his dying father, a man who silently sat on the sidelines while David was being abused at the hands of his mother, is the ultimate attestation of David's healing, and the final destination in his journey. I think adult survivors in every corner of the world would join me in saying, "Thank you, David, for telling your story. You have, indeed, made "something of your life" and most graciously continue to do so through your work in helping others." May you, and those you love, continue to live, love and enjoy life eternally.

Way to go, Dave!, March 6, 2000
I just finished A Man Named Dave this morning. I stayed up all night reading it, I could not put it down.

I have also read the other 2 books in the series.

This book is extremely well-written. You feel like you are really there with Dave. I was in awe at the dialogue... it was so real, not like the normal stuff you see on TV or in the movies.

One of the things that struck me the most was when he said this to Stephen, his son..

"Just like in baseball: you'll get a few hits, but most likely, you'll strike out more than you get on base. But don't quit. Find your focus, relax, take a deep breath, and give it a good swing."

Dave, please continue to keep us updated on your life. We can all learn so much from you.

No one deserves to be treated as you were. You were not at fault for what happened.

You broke the cycle of abuse... not only for yourself, but I am sure for many others as well.

You are a hero - just like Superman.

A Man Named Dave: A Story of Triumph and Forgiveness, November 21, 1999
I can honestly say I have never read a series of books in which I have been so inspired! Dave is truly a better person than I in that he not only forgives his parents but honors those that finally saved his life by reporting the abuse to the authorities. I don't think I would have been as forgiving. Our society has come a long way in protecting our most vulnerable, our young people, but we still have a long way to go. When I have a down day, I think of a little boy named "It" and it brings things back into perspective. Stephan is a lucky young man to have a father like Dave. WAY TO GO DAVE!

I think the Book was totally amazing, November 24, 1999
I think A Child Called "It" and the Lost Boy was breath taking. I couldn't put the book down after I started reading them. David Pelzer is an inspiration to all abused children in this world. I was glad to read that he had triumphed through such an ordeal as a child.

The most moving experience on paper, August 17, 2000
I have read all three books in the series, and I feel I have gained so much from all 3. Dave, as a boy, lived as no child should ever have to live. I am a single mom and have done everything in my power to surround my child with as much love as possible,so it almost was impossible to imagine any mother torturing her own flesh and blood as "The Mother" did with Dave.. After reading this book, not only did I feel extreme sorry for Dave and all other abused children in our world, but I also felt an extreme sense of pride for him and the amazing accomplishments he has made in his life. This is a must read. You will cry with Dave, laugh with him, and get angry at him so many times in this book. But most importantly, you will learn about surviving, willpower, trust, and how we all have to ability to make a difference. Thank you Dave Peltzer for making such a difference. I kiss and hug my child a little longer and a little harder each and every night because of what you've taught me. You're better than Superman! ... Read more

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Reviews

The Go-To resource for adults with ADHD/ADD, and their therapists, too!, July 2, 2009
The book is superb! It's clear, comprehensive and to-the-point, reflecting the years Dr. Tuckman has spent facilitating CHADD support groups for adults with ADHD. I agree with the previous reviewer - it's a true gift to all of us interested in and affected by ADHD. Plus, he's put great information free for the downloading on the book's site, [...], including a series of podcasts summarizing key points. I routinely recommend the podcasts to my patients with ADHD - it's easy to start off by listening to something short, and great for people who don't like to read or are auditory-preference processors.

With a 'just-right' balance of neuroscience and wisdom-of-experience, compassion and accountability, "More Attention, Less Distraction" outlines how ADHD can be understood, managed, and not be so crazy-making. The advice and strategies are practical and readily applicable. Buy this one first.

Get this book -- now!, June 27, 2009
I just can't say enough good about this book. It has a wealth of fantastic information for the individual with adult ADHD. At the start of each chapter, there's a summary of the different sections of that chapter. How much more ADHD friendly can you get?

It's very, very clearly written.

Dr. Tuckman's afterward brought tears to my eyes. He talks about all the pain that adult ADHD sufferers (especially those born before the mid 70s) often experience, and how they're often judged -- labeled as lazy, unmotivated, etc. His compassion shows throughout the entire book.

And his counsel and information are solid, not speculative.

This would also be a fantastic gift to give to family members, friends, etc. of someone with adult ADHD. It's highly educational and very clear. Anybody reading it will learn so much.

Thank you, Dr. Tuckman, for this great gift!

Exceptional Book on ADHD!, May 21, 2009
More Attention, Less Deficit is the new "Bible" of ADHD. Dr. Tuckman brilliantly maps out strategies and tips while peppering it with facts in a way that makes it interesting and easy for the adult with ADHD to devour in bite-sized pieces. A must-read for all who are touched by ADHD.

Looking for your first book to purchase on ADHD?? This is the ONE!, August 9, 2009
If you're looking for your first book to purchase on Adult AD/HD, this is the one! If you're looking for a "must have" to add to your current collection, again- this is the one!

Dr. Tuckman deserves 5 gold stars for developing an insightful book of practical tools and strategies for adults who are challenged with troublesome symptoms of AD/HD. This is a "how to" book.... finally a book of various solutions! The book DOES NOT need to be read from front to back (although, you may not be able to resist doing so), but you can instead look up your particular issue/ challenge and be directed to short and practical tips and strategies.

This is a perfect book for adults with AD/HD to skim through and share certain portions that are applicable to their own "version" of ADD/ADHD with their non-ADHD partners, friends and family. I've recommended it to several couples, and they have come back reporting that the book is excellent and that it provides a vehicle to increased useful discussion and improved understanding of the challenges involved with the disorder.

Dr. Tuckman has provided his expertise in a fashion that is both respectful and incredibly compassionate. If you have AD/HD, after reading the portions of the book that pertain to you- you will feel understood. If you do not have AD/HD, the book will help you to better understand those who do.

Thank you for your contribution, Dr. Tuckman.

Deb Rowley, MSW
Madison, WI
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The best and dare I say the only book you will need to buy on adult ADHD., May 27, 2010
I have read a whole heap of books on ADHD since being diagnosed and none of them have ever given me what I wanted. They tend to focus on case studies of suffers, lack information for adults with ADHD, have too much information on what to do if you think you might have ADHD, be outdated, focus on pseudo-science/'natural remedies', contain loads of fluffy talk such as 'ADHD is really a gift' and they quite often lack any real helpful information on what you can do to begin to address the issues that you're faced with as an adult with ADHD. More Attention, Less Deficit is very different.

Dr Tuckman's book is split up into 4 sections: 'Understanding ADHD in adults', 'Start with effective treatment', 'Build the necessary skills' and 'Improve specific areas of your life'. The book is wonderfully accessible and it's designed to be read however you like - you can read it right through or just dip into it when you want to read about a particular topic. Personally I read it right through, but I still find myself dipping into it all the time as I try to put new skills into action or try and remind myself where I went wrong.

If you want a concise, up to date, accessible and authoritative book explaining what adult ADHD is, how to live with it and that is packed with scientifically sound information (rather than dodgy new age weirdness)then look no further. If you're like me and struggle with reading anyway don't waste any time or money on any other book. Once you have read and adsorb this one any further information you could possibly want is on the web.

More Attention, Less Deficit, September 11, 2009
As a practicing therapist for years I have had relatively little knowledge of or interest in ADHD in adults. I recently began a new job in which I am seeing many more adults with ADHD, most of them in crisis. In an attempt to learn more about this disorder I found Ari Tuckman's book which is highly readable and provides clear guidelines for the diagnosis, as well as many suggestions which are helpful to me in working with ADHD clients. I have come to appreciate how difficult ADHD makes life for those who suffer with it. Dr. Tuckman's book is written with compassion and a tremendous amount of research.

Add this to your ADHD reference shelf if you deal with adult ADHD, September 4, 2009
Up today: a (relatively) new book about Adult ADHD, called More Attention, Less Deficit, by Ari Tuckman PhD.

This is actually one of the newer books I would recommend as an addition to your references on ADHD if you or your partner has ADHD. Specifically, I would treat it as a reference book. It is chock full of suggestions and strategies to work with ADHD issues as well as clear explanations.

It is not the kind of book that I, for one, would read from start to finish. It isn't the kind of book you read to understand your emotional and deep experience of ADHD the way some of the classics Adult ADHD are. That also means for me, that I don't get swept up in reading it for hours. And I don't want you to purchase it and then get mad at yourself for not reading like a non-ADHDer like that!

Instead, it's a book I like to pick up and check out the information on various topics and questions related to ADHD. I think it would be good for a partner or family member to help understand various aspects of ADHD, as well as for the adult with ADHD themselves- and I say various meaning MANY because it covers a lot from diagnosis to symptoms to social issues to life issues to medications to all kinds of other management strategies. It is organized and indexed well and clearly to make it easy to use for this. In fact, few of the other books around, while they do touch on the sort of gestalt experience of adult ADHD, serve as this kind of useful reference that could be super helpful to add to your bookshelf!

Finally, a well-organized and very practical resource for adults with ADHD!, August 8, 2009
Dr. Tuckman has done it again! His latest book is a welcome contribution to the books on adult ADHD. It covers everything you need to know regarding diagnosis, treatment, and life strategies. His down-to-earth, conversational style tells you what you need to do quickly and accurately. The table-of-contents allows you to go to the sections you are most interested in. Section subtitles make it clear what the focus of each section is, making it easier to browse through the book. The sections on coaching, medication, careers, and relationships will make it easier for adults with ADHD, and those who love them, to understand and cope with various aspects of the disorder. I also like the positive title and subtitle, as this book provides numerous "success strategies" for adult. This book is a "must have" for any adult with ADHD. I have been recommending it to all of my patients.

--James J. Crist, Ph.D.
Author of ADHD--A Teenager's Guide

Good guide to ADHD, March 28, 2010
I have ADHD and have been reading about the condition for several years. This book is one of the most comprehensive books on the Physiology of the condition and different treatment options. I am still reading the practical exercises but overall this is one of the better books I have read on the topic. Especially for different treatment options and a good explanation of the condition and the impacts on other people.

Top recommendation, July 31, 2010
I have read numerous books on adult ADHD (I am a late diagnosis adult), and this is by far the best book I have ever read on the subject. If you were to read only one book, read this one (although I would recommend reading more for a broad perspective). Other reviews submitted here provide good specifics; I am writing this to add another 5 star recommendation. The book is a must read about adult ADHD, and a book I would highly recommend about ADHD as it pertains to any age group. ... Read more

Editorial Review

In this warm, funny, and wise new book, NPR’s award-winning and beloved Scott Simon tells the story of how he and his wife found true love with two tiny strangers from the other side of the world. It’s a book of unforgettable moments: when Scott and Caroline get their first thumb-size pictures of their daughters, when the small girls are placed in their arms, and all the laughs and tumbles along the road as they become a real family.

Woven into the tale of Scott, Caroline, and the two little girls who changed their lives are the stories of other adoptive families. Some are famous and some are not, but each family’s saga captures facets of the miracle of adoption.

Baby, We Were Meant for Each Other is a love story that doesn’t gloss over the rough spots. There are anxieties and tears along with hugs and smiles and the unparalleled joy of this blessed and special way of making a family. Here is a book that families who have adopted—or are considering adoption—will want to read for inspiration. But everyone can enjoy this story because, as Scott Simon writes, adoption can also help us understand what really makes families, and how and why we fall in love.
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Now in its thirty-sixth printing, this beautiful gift book features page after page of information space for a grandmother to fill in, such as a family tree and memories of the grandmother's own childhood. Delicate pastel illustrations enhance every page. A unique treasure sure to be cherished by the grandchild lucky enough to receive one from a beloved grandmother. ... Read more

Editorial Review

In this classic parody, Thomas Hill presents the testosterone-inspired answer to the best-seller What to Expect When You're Expecting.

* This completely revised and updated edition of the best-selling parody humorously guides fathers-to-be through nine months of 21st-century baby preparations.

Complete with weird baby names, tips on how to avoid a sympathetic pregnancy, and a discourse on the evolution of ESPN and the role it plays postdelivery, Hill's tome has been thoroughly revised to account for not only the usual father-to-be questions but also the often baffling and amusing technological and medical advances awaiting today's four million expectant dads.

* This hilarious month-by-month guide offers new and veteran dads solace, laughter, and a bit of useful information, including a question-and-answer chapter covering basics like "How much does having a baby cost?"; visual charts assessing such things as the breakdown behind the mom-to-be's weight gain; sidebars covering common wife complaints and anticipated purchases; and much more. ... Read more

Reviews

First Month: Buy this book, October 1, 2002
It took me too long to finish this book ... because my wife kept stealing it since it was a lot more fun than any of her pregnancy books! However, I just finished this easy read, and I couldn't help but recommend this to fathers-to-be.

Let's be clear: this isn't an instruction manual or anything to take too seriously. It is a very fun, month-by-month account of pregnancy.

For the people who gave it low ratings, maybe you were looking for too much out of it ... this book isn't going to stop your wife's morning sickness and it isn't going to teach you the secret to triple your income before the baby is born. However, it might lighten what can be a time of emotional highs and lows, filled with fear, ecstasy, anxiety and elation, often all at the same time.

Seriously, there are plenty of good books out there which give great suggestions for how to handle the upcoming changes in your lives. Check out "The Expectant Father" or books of that ilk ... but to loosen up a little bit and have fun while getting involved in the pregnancy, get this book. Just don't read any of it to your wife until you've finished it, or you won't see it until she's finished reading it herself.

A very, very funny book, February 18, 1999
Brilliantly done comic relief for the overstressed expectant father who is a little burned out on pregnancy info. Each month of pregnancy has its own chapter, and each chapter begins with "what she'll be complaining about this month". The book probably doesn't have tons of useful info, and shouldn't be approached that way, but it is very funny and does serve to get you into the right mindset. If you're a newly-pregnant woman, and your partner is resisting the harder reading, start him off with this one. THEN give him the hard stuff...

make sure you know what you want from the book, July 27, 2002
I gave this book 2 stars because, although it was not for me, I am willing to accpet some people may like it. I am excited, scared and very curious about my wife's pregnancy. I have never seen her look prettier and happier. I bought the book thinking it might give me the "inside story" to the secrets and mysteries of the mother of my child. I wanted to know what I could do to make these 9 months the best experience for her. What I got was a --humorous?-- vision of the torture it is for a man to have a pregnant wife. It was no help at all; it was offensive and embarassing.
My wife, however, thought it was funny. She has an amazing sense of humor, I guess. She gave it to our neighbors, who are also expecting their first child, and they loved it. Like they love Dave Barry and The Far Side books.

I guess what I'm saying is: if you want to laugh like you would watching Seinfeld, then sure. This is it. If you want to understand your wife better, or find out how to make her life easier during the time she carries and nurtures your child, then look somewhere else.

A Very Funny Parody, April 19, 2004
This book had my husband and me laughing hysterically. While it does contain some useful tips and some factual information on the stages of pregnancy, it's more of a mood-lifter. It teaches many funny lessons on what to say, and what NOT to say to your pregnant wife, how to learn to maneuver her through a crowded restaurant (practice with an upright mattress), and the basic food groups of the pregnant woman. This is not a serious book, but it certainly helped us to lighten up an emotionally challenging period of our pregnancy. The previous reviewers who didn't like this book are taking themselves WAY too seriously! I highly recommend it for good laughs together.

Lighten up folks, it's a PARODY, January 2, 2003
To all of you disappointed at the lack of pertinent information in this book, didn't you read the description before you bought it? Didn't you see the red banner on the corner that says "A PARODY"? C'mon people, this is not an informational book, it's a joke. It's meant to be a joke. It's not supposed to make your husband care more or give him any useable knowledge about pregnancy, it's supposed to make him laugh.

I bought this for my future brother-in-law when we found out my sister was pregnant.....he loves it, and so does she! I think it's a fantastic book, for those with a sense of humor.

Unbelievably Funny!, September 4, 1999
I sat down in the food court at the local mall and started reading the book and I laughed so hard that people stopped and stared at me. My husband is going to love this. I'd give it a million stars and recommend this book to any expectant father.

This book scared my husband, March 30, 2000
If your husband is even the slightest bit jumpy, and worries about all of the bad things related to pregnancy (money, etc.), then by all means, keep this book away from him. After reading the first two or three pages, I noticed my husband become paler and paler. I thought the book was perfectly fine, and kinda funny, but I guess this is proof that this is not the book for every husband.

Rehash of old book still isn't funny, and still needs a lot of work, March 9, 2007
They must've taken Bob Saget's jokes and put them in this farce. The only thing helpful was the expected costs for 'stuff' as the pregnancy goes along. The jokes all fall flat, the sarcasm is dry and withers horribly as time goes on.

I actually stopped reading this book after I forced myself to read the boring common sensical ideas. Unless you're a guy who has no clue about kids/babies, never had friends who've told you what to expect, or cannot look online and read far better websites with better and more poignant information, this book shouldn't be published to waste the paper it was printed on.

I heartily pass on this book, and we have a LOT of books with our first kid. This is by far the worst.

Very funny, January 31, 2000
Unlike most of these attempts at humor and parody, this book is actually very funny. It's a good parody of What to Expect When You're Expecting, but you'll also find it funny even if you haven't read that book. My wife laughed a lot when she read it too.

This book is TERRIBLE!, January 17, 2005
I got this book for my husband hoping he would have something interesting, fun, and helpful to read while I read 'The Girlfriend's Guide' and it turned out to be awful. The book is written for a very immature man and was dumber than it was funny. We threw it away after attempting twice to read it. ... Read more

Editorial Review

Winner of Learning Magazine's Teachers Choice Award, the first edition of 1001 Great Ideas has been a treasured resource in the autism community since 2004. Now, in this expanded edition, Ellen Notbohm (best-selling author of the revolutionary book Ten Things Every Child with Autism Wishes You Knew) and Veronica Zysk (award-winning author and editor of Autism Asperger's Digest magazine) present parents and educators with over 1800 ideas try-it-now tips, eye-opening advice, and grassroots strategies. More than 600 fresh ideas join tried and true tactics from the original edition, while many ideas pick up where the first edition left off, offering modifications for older kids, honing in on Asperger's challenges, and enhancing already-effective ways to help your child or student achieve success at home, in school, and in the community.


Time is money ... and this book saves you both.

• Your one-stop-shop of solutions, explanations, and strategies. Quickly find ideas that speak to the variety of developmental levels, learning styles, and abilities inherent in children with autism and Asperger's.
  
• Autism publications can be pricey, and many times readers only come away with a few key points per resource. Ellen and Veronica have saved you thousands of hours and dollars, blending knowledge from the most credible experts with their own invaluable wealth of humor, common sense, and experience.
  

Reviews

Must Have, August 25, 2006
I have shelves filled with books with 'how to' and I have tried them all. My son, Brian now 14, has severe mental retardation, there are very few books for 'teaching' children like him. I took a chance on this one, and worth it. Thanx to the notes in the book I no longer try and stop him from bitting his hands, but understadning why, all of us at home started to take notes of when and what happened before and now we focus on the what happens before. This is just one excellent example.

We had a good summer and he has made great progress because of the book. We did projects with him, set real targets and monitored. My 9 year old daughter who is a part of the team helping her 14 year old sibblings, got ideas of things she could do with him and learnt much about not doing 'for him'.

The instructions for action, and this is what the book spurs you to do 'act' are clear and logically. So many times we go on to another 'intervention' and when we read the explanation that leads to the action I hear myself thinking, but you know what that is logical. It may say 'Autism Spectrum', but it is forall of us who has a child/young adult with moderate to severe intellectural disability.

I am purchasing two extra copies of the book. One to send to school when he starts in another two weeks, the other to my sister who we plan to visit in December. I also chair the National Advisory Board for Persons with Disability here in Jamaica and I am going to recommending this book to all who will listen.

A must have for all parents to learn and share with educators, April 26, 2006
I can not tell you how very much this book has helped myself and my 2 children with autism as well as the educators that I entrust with my children. There is something for everyone in this book. There are so many simple answers to big questions, I literally wanted to say "Oh, why didn't I think of that?" The education and guidance that these authors offer us, as parents, is priceless. There are so many books out there. My library of books regarding "our" spectrum grows daily. However, this one book has done more for our "team," we, as parents, and my children's teachers than any other book I can name. I will add, for our children's point of view, I very strongly suggest all books by Temple Grandin. My hope is that any parent/caregiver, anyone who loves a person with an Autism Spectrum Disorder will read this book and contact me, to expand all of our networks of support and love for these incredible people who happen to have ASD's and whom we are blessed to share our lives with. Please feel free to contact me at kristenc@wcoil.com.
Thank you to the authors, the publisher and to all who support this fabulous reference. Thank you.

You need this one, June 27, 2006
This book filters through all the technical terms and gives you quick, much needed information for those daily challenges that you definitely will encounter. It deals with so many of the major issues (social, sensory, behavioral, and self-care). It is a must read for anyone that knows or works with an individual on the spectrum.

A Must Have For Every Parent of A Child With Autism, May 17, 2006
I have never written an online review in my life. However, as the parent of an autistic child, I felt I had to do this for the benefit of other parents out there that are not sure about buying this book.

The bottom line is that you should buy it! All sorts of information and ideas are presented in this ONE book. I've done research on my own and have had to put the pieces together. It was great to see all of my pieces in this book plus so much more. I wish I would have found this book years ago! It would have saved me much time and effort.

The other pluses to this book are that it is easy to read and you can easily skip around as needed if you don't have the time to read it cover to cover (which you will find yourself doing because it is written so well). Now, let me be clear. This book by no means covers all ideas in detail after detail in chapter after chapter. Think about this book as Cliff's Notes and as a great way to start thinking out of the box.

Useful ideas for coing with ASDs, November 22, 2006
As a teacher of children with Autistic Spectrum Disorders (ASDs) and Sensory Integration Dysfunction (DSI), I have read nearly ever book written on the subject. Most focus on recognizing, and getting a diagnosis and treatment for, ASDs, or games/activities. This book stands out as one of few that address COPING. It is full of small techniques and tricks to help your child/student cope with the world around them. Some are everyday routine suggestions; others are situational tricks that actually help (I've test-run many). Even if you think you know pretty much everything, there are enough fresh ideas in this book to make it worth the read. I highly recommend it to anyone who works with these special kids.

Almost as easy as 1-2-3, June 16, 2006
While Autism can be mystifying, this book is a real time-saver in unraveling so many of its misconceptions. It gives you solution options, offering hope to those working with children with ASD and the social, sensory, behavioral, and self-care issues they have. This book offers non technical, practical, indispensable advice. An absolute must for educators.

I'm Not Convinced, February 13, 2007
As a father of a child with ASD and a special education teacher who deals with ASD kids every day in some ways I am in a unique position to judge the merits of programmes and strategies that come up. I welcome this book that it gives strategies for various situations one is likely to encounter and this is appreciated after attending lots of broad sweeping seminars etc. Unfortunately the book itself seems to suffer from sensory overload , it flow is jumbled and there is little structure to the book. The chapters are ad hoc and so are the strategies. The book is not written by educational professionals so practising teachers will see that many of the experiences are part of the general curriculum.
One of the keys factors that I have found both at at school and home is the environment that ASD kids thrive in , which is structured routine environments that have been carefully planned to eliminate sensory overload. This is not really adequately addessed in the book. When I believe it should be the cornerstone of intervetion and then other strategies and experiences flow from that position.
Too many time have I seen ASD kids meltdown because conditions at home or in the classroom are disorganised , chaotic and random.
Having said all this there are some real gems in this book which makes it well worth the purchase price and giving it a good thorough reading several times.
Personally I would like to see a better book with clear steps and layout written by parents , teachers , kids and others.

Loving unconditionally, June 16, 2006
My friend is a joy to be around most of the time. However, I must admit that there are those moments that I just don't understand why he does certain things. I cringe when he speaks out of turn or what I think may be strange or inappropriate. I've often thought "if only he would/wouldn't do certain things, he wouldn't have such a problem socially. I hurt for him. Through the reading of this book and others, including, "Ten Things Every Child with Autism Wishes You Knew", I have learned to show him always that I love him unconditionally. He will develop on his timeline and feel more self confidence in being who he is. He too has gifts and abilities just waiting to be discovered. Great Book!

Excellent for anyone interested in learning more about autism, June 16, 2006
Wow! I can't say enough about the invaluable information that I gained from this book. I have read many books on different aspects of autism, but this one tops them all. It helps you to be able to get into the mind of one with autism and understand more fully how they process information. The book gives insight on sensory integration a means to communication. I cannot imagine having great needs and not being able to make them known. How frustrating that would be. We are reminded to patiently and wisely move on to Plan B when Plan A is not working.

Awsome!, June 21, 2006
Terrific ideas! Very creative suggestions on embracing it's presence in our lives and how to successfully work with these individuals. Great guidelines to understanding the limits of their world such as: sensory issues, overload, communication, limited interests, and interaction with others. ... Read more

Editorial Review

The techniques of mindful awareness have helped millions of adults reduce stress in their lives. Now, children—who are under more pressure than ever before—can learn to protect themselves with these well-established methods adapted for their ages. Based on a program affiliated with UCLA, The Mindful Child is a groundbreaking book, the first to show parents how to teach these transformative practices to their children.

Mindful awareness works by enabling you to pay closer attention to what is happening within you—your thoughts, feelings, and emotions—so you can better understand what is happening to you. The Mindful Child extends the vast benefits of mindfulness training to children from four to eighteen years old with age-appropriate exercises, songs, games, and fables that Susan Kaiser Greenland has developed over more than a decade of teaching mindful awareness to kids. These fun and friendly techniques build kids’ inner and outer awareness and attention, which positively affects their academic performance as well as their social and emotional skills, such as making friends, being compassionate and kind to others, and playing sports, while also providing tools to manage stress and to overcome specific challenges like insomnia, overeating, ADHD, hyper-perfectionism, anxiety, and chronic pain. When children take a few moments before responding to stressful situations, they allow their own healthy inner compasses to click in and guide them to become more thoughtful, resilient, and empathetic. The step-by-step process of mental training presented in The Mindful Child provides tools from which all children—and all families—will benefit. ... Read more

Reviews

Great resource for parents and anyone who cares about kids, May 10, 2010
This is a useful book. The Mindful Child offers simple techniques to help parents help children (of all ages) gain more control over their responses to the world -increasing happiness and calmness as a result. The author does a great job of distilling age-old mindfulness and meditation techniques into simple exercises and games that children and any non yoga-fanatic can do. You can tell this is a book written by a real mom who has seen the results in action - her sincerity and conviction come through throughout - and that makes a huge difference for me. I gave the book to my sister who has two young kids and both she and I found it enormously helpful. We had fun playing the games and activities and the kids did too! Without being preachy or new-agey, this book offers way to get kids to tune out the noise of tv, internet etc. and focus more on themselves. One exercise asks them to imagine what could be inside a closed box, which, in a group setting, encourages kids to be creative and creates a suspenseful, engaging scenario; the game helps children not only use their creativity, it helps them become better aware of each other as well.

Blue's Clues, on Mindfulness!, May 7, 2010
If you have a child, you'll want this groundbreaking book!

Susan has created and developed a winning teaching method that may very well change the fundamental paradigm of how we approach teaching children - The New ABC's - Attention, Balance and Clarity/Compassion.

These are practices that playfully teach principles based on the practice of mindful awareness - the art of developing and sustaining awareness of present moment experience with an emphasis on a kind, non-judgmental acceptance and curious attitude to whatever arises. As exercise and nutrition support our bodies, mindfulness practices are exercise and nutrition for the mind and heart. Some have called it "brain hygiene." Now an ongoing subject of psychological and neurobiological study, mindfulness practices have shown to reduce stress, anxiety and blood pressure, while improving our memory, concentration and immune systems. Training us to take things less personally, regular mindfulness practice develops a deeper degree of overall well-being and happiness in our daily lives.

The genius of her method (and this book) is that she has cultivated and developed these practices for many years with the intended audience - the children themselves! So rather than being a didactic lecture about the benefits of mindfulness or advice for parents, The Mindful Child is instead a practical guide filled with learning strategies disguised as games, activities and stories of discovery.

Creative wisdom runs through each of the various practices in this book, designed to bring a kind awareness to a child's inner and outer worlds. Through acceptance of the ebb and flow of inner and outer experience, children become aware of how they navigate through life, resulting in an increased ability to manage and reduce stress while developing compassion for themselves and others. Ultimately these practices help establish a dependable mind, all while having fun.

Think of it as 'Blue's Clues' on Mindfulness!

The Book I've Always Wanted To Read!, May 13, 2010
This is the book I have always wanted to read! I have long wanted to share with my children the many gifts I have gleaned through my longtime yoga and meditation practices, but have struggled to find a meaningful way to do this. This Mindful Child offers a wealth of inspiration - from personal stories about the author's family and experiences working with children all the way through to detailed descriptions of various games and explorations to share.

I have a long list of "games" to try out from the book, and have already given a few of them a try with my children. I am so impressed by how clearly the author has distilled life's essential truths into beautifully simple and straightforward explorations. And I am equally pleased by how interested and eager my kids have been to "play along." I am especially happy that the author offers mindfulness in a way that doesn't feel preachy or dogmatic at all. I don't feel like I'm trying to ram anything down my kids' throats, but rather saying, "Hey guys, come look at this. Isn't this interesting?"

The Mindful Child will help my family, and I hope many others around the world, apply the ancient truths of mindfulness to our very modern lives. I highly recommend this book to anyone interested helping children cultivate happiness, self-awareness, kindness and ease.

Relax, Rest. . ., June 1, 2010
I've just started The Mindful Child in hopes of helping my boys, particularly my 9 year-old, cope with stress. He's super bright but socially and emotionally behind. Plays beautiful piano and cello, but can't relate to his peers, a huge source of stress; he's also a military kid, and my husband travels fairly frequently. . . - 15 months away in '03-'04 - presently gone for 2 weeks; lastly, both boys have sleep apnea, not solved by conventional treatments, they use CPAP machines. My 9 y/o has really been fighting the machine the last couple of weeks, and his behavior is reflective of his lack of good quality sleep.

Last night though, I guided them through "Making Connections Between Breath, Body and Mind." My 9 y/o was out before I finished! THANK YOU for this tool! I just started the book, and jumped ahead in search of something to help them ease out of the day's activities, and into a restful sleep!

I can hardly wait to try it again tonight!

Amazing, must have book for anyone teaching mindfulness to kids (and adults), October 31, 2010
I found this book to be truly amazing. As both a psychotherapist (working with children, adolescents, and adults) and yoga teacher, I have utilized ideas from this book almost daily. It has even helped to deepen my own practice even though I do not have children of my own. I have shared ideas from this book from a number of colleagues and some of them have purchased it that same day. I believe Greenland shares something we are all searching for, whether we are psychotherapists, parents, teachers, yoga teachers, or people wanting to improve our own mindfulness/meditation practice in a playful way. It has proved to be one of the most valuable tools in my psychotherapy toolbox. I am grateful for Greenland sharing her wealth of knowledge and research.

Not just for children!, May 12, 2010
Not just for children!

Susan Kaiser Greenland shares with readers of The MIndful Child a wonderful description, explanation and teaching method of mindfulness. She translates timeless wisdom in a timely fashion for contemporary lives using personal stories and metaphor, as well as step by step instructions.

I highly recommend this book not only for the benefit of our children, but for parents ourselves. Read the book. Pick the practices which most appeal to you. Explore and enjoy for a week or so *before* you introduce the ideas and practices to your kids.

If you work with adults, The Mindful Child can help you find ways to describe, explain and teach mindfulness to adult clients or students. I've successfully utilized Susan's ideas with my adult clients for several years.

I suggest you buy, enjoy, and enjoy the results of this book.

The greatest contribution so far, June 20, 2010
I've been studying meditation for children for some time now. This book is the greatest contribution for my understanding so far. Maybe because we can feel that all the content comes from her heart, from her true experience. And virtually all suggestions are applicable to children practice. I am very thankful to Susan Kaiser. ... Read more

Editorial Review

It's here--a fully expanded, updated, and re-designed edition of the best-selling doctor-authored pregnancy book in America!

Your Pregnancy Week by Week is the most medically current and comprehensive pregnancy guide available. Doctors recommend it. Reviewers praise it. Pregnant couples rely on it.

With over 70 new topics covered, and completely updated throughout to keep up with trends, new products, and safety recommendations, this comprehensive, authoritative, and easy-to-use guide includes:

-Detailed descriptions of baby's developmental milestones each week
-Clear illustrations of how both mother and baby are changing and growing
-Up-to-date information about medical tests and procedures
-Tips on nutrition and lifestyle and the ways actions affect baby
-Safe weekly exercises to help mother stay in shape and comfortable
-Helpful hints for the father-to-be and information on how a pregnancy affects a couple ... Read more

Reviews

Better than all the rest, January 6, 2002
This is my first pregnancy, so I had lots of questions. I went overboard on the books - I own 3. The other 2 are informative, and I am glad I had a chance to read them, but if a woman wants one book that will answer her pregnancy questions, "Your Pregnancy Week by Week" is the one I recommend. This book explains the stages of the pregnancy, both for the mom and baby, at a nice pace, weekly. I own "What to Expect When You Are Expecting", which goes month by month, but that seems too general because I want to know what is going on with my body and my baby now, not "sometime this month". "The Pregnancy Journal" goes day by day, which seems to be a bit much - nobody's pregnancy is going to follow the book exactly. With this book, I can read about what will be happening the following week and share the information with my husband, which makes him feel more involved. I love the fact that it explains how I am changing, how the baby is changing, and what I should be expecting (it's very reasuring when a book tells you that the crazy things you are doing and feeling are normal). I recommend this book over any of the others I have seen.

your pregnancy week by week, November 27, 1999
As a midwife, I was very disappointed in this book, mainly because of the negative, fear-based undertones throughout the entire text. "Week by week" a woman is educated about every tiny, rare complication or problem that could occur for her and her baby. I believe in education, but this is ridiculous.

Excllent reference for my first pregnancy!, May 31, 1999
Originally I bought What to Expect When You're Expecting because that's all I heard about. When a friend recommended this book I was really excited. I think the week by week illustrations are great. Unlike What to Expect, with this book I actually felt I was learning about my baby's development as the weeks went on, i.e. the size, changes in my body etc.

For those who have critisized this book by saying it puts too many worry and unnecessary information in your head, what you would you prefer: knowing what could go wrong or being totally ignorant throughout your whole pregnancy?!?! Of course not everyone will get vericose veins or have dizzy spells, but wouldn't you want to know about it if you did? I don't smoke but every pregnancy book I read had a huge section devoted to the dangers of smoking - should I therefore think the book provides me with useless information? No, instead I glanced over it and moved on. I bet these people would also complain if the book wasn't comprehensive enough when they actually did have a problem with their pregnancy.

This book, combined with what to Expect (and of course my doctor) is more than enough information for me to feel educated and prepared for my pregnancy.

The Best Pregnancy Book of the 5 we used., July 23, 2006
The greatest strength of this book is the week-by-week format. It outlines specific changes that are pretty close to exactly as predicted. We noticed many of the things and then read them that week, ie. phlegmyness, inability to travel more than an hour and dryness at night just to name a few. This book is very well balanced and it tends to focuses more on the positives of pregnancy and not the possible complications. This is the 5th Edition of this book with millions of copies sold. Overall it is a great help. I definitely recommend it to all expectant couples. These authors also wrote a number of supporting or complimentary books:
Bouncing Back From Your Pregnancy
Your Pregnancy Journal Week by Week
Your Pregnancy for the Father to Be
Your Pregnancy After 35
Your Pregnancy Questions and Answers
Your Pregnancy Every Woman's Guide
Your Baby's First Year Week by Week

I USE THIS EVERY PREGNANCY!, November 13, 2000
I'm pregnant with my 3rd baby now, and I still go to this to read what's going on every week. "What to Expect" is good as well, but after you read your info for the month, that's it. (The two together are a great pair.) Week-by-Week gives you something to read every week, and I know we all want to know what's going on right then!! I have fun talking to friends and family about the baby, and being able to tell them just how big he/she is each week.

I believe that knowledge alleviates fear, so being told what problems could happen in pregnancy is great. I would rather be informed with what could happen than know nothing. Other books I've seen have a "when something goes wrong" chapter or something else to that effect. I would rather read about possible problems a little at a time, since most women don't have real problems with pregnancy, than getting the full blow of it all at once and then feeling overwhelmed and REALLY worried.

As for other reviews I read about Dr. Curtis arbitrarily placing topics with different weeks, is it that hard to look in the index and find what you're looking for? Would any book on pregnancy be able to properly place every person's symptoms and problems exactly when they experience them?

I love this book, and always recommend it to friends I hear are pregnant!

OK but it should not be your only pregnancy book, June 19, 2006
You can get this info on many pregnancy/ birth websites, like Baby Center, pregnancy.about.com, and sheknows.com (some have even more info and pictures than this book). Those sites all provide week by week information. Before the internet became so accessible this book probably made more sense and was more relevant. For the very best pictures of the developing baby, in book form, go with "A Child is Born" by Nilsson. It is beautiful and informative (though, again, not the only pregancy book you should buy).

I should note that I have the 4th edition. I hope that it has been updated, especially with regards to episiotomies. It erroneously states that an episiotomy heals better than a tear. The American College of OB/Gyns came out against routine episiotomies in May 2005. They now know that episiotomies increase the chances of bigger lacerations and that they do not heal faster or easier. (They may take a bit less work and time for them to sew up but I would rather them have to take longer to sew up a 1 degree tear that wouldn't be that hard to recover from!). So, if the episiotomy info has been updated just ignore this part of the review. I'll check out the new edition next time I am at the bookstore. (Updated, I checked and they have not revised their episiotomy info).

Like almost every pg/ birth book it touches on baby's size and birth but pays only a smidge of lip service to baby's position. If more moms knew about malpositioned babies (like posterior ones that can cause slow, back labors) then more c-sections could be prevented. Some c-sections that are done because baby is "too big" are really the result of a poorly positioned baby. However, there are things you can do during pregnancy to increase your odds of a well positioned baby (see www.motherspirit.net) as well as things you can do in labor to rotate baby to a better position (try all 4s for 10-15 minutes with periodic back arches towards the ceiling).

I think that this book tries to do too much. It has such short blurbs on important topics. These include labor induction, pain meds in labor, birthing options (as you can tell I am a birth junkie...I even have a Listmania list on good pg books). I worry that some moms only read this book and think they know all that they really need to know. So, this book can not be your only resource.

It also seems like sections of this book were written by several different people. In some parts they back track on earlier advice. For example, they say at one point that breech babies must be delivered by c-section but later they discuss it a bit further (though they leave out excellent tips that may help turn baby like the webster technique, heat pads, visualizations, certain positions...). This lack of consistency can be a bit confusing.

I feel this book is too one sided (medically oriented) in that it tells you things in shades of black and white only (like why you need to have X but not why or what all your other options are). I feel like this book does not help you make informed choices about aspects of pregnancy and especially not of birth. Informed consent should inlude being told the risks, benefits, reasons and options. Since this kind of information may not be passed on in easy to understand, unrushed ways by your care provider you need to know where to turn for the complete picture on your own. You need other books to do that. "Your Pregancy Week by Week" will not do that.

What books will do that? Number one pick is "The Pregnancy Book" by Dr. Sears. After that would be "Pregnancy, Childbirth and the Newborn" by Penny Simkin. You can't go wrong with books by Sears, Simkin and Kitzinger. I would definetly choose one of those over "What to Expect...," "The Girlfriends' Guide...," or this book. You don't have to want a more naturally oriented pregnancy and birth to appreciate my recommendations. They still offer all the basics of the medical model but they do a better job considering all sides.

There are so many better pregnancy/ birth books out there than the standards (WTE...) but because they aren't as well known people don't buy them. I bet if more people got Sears' book instead of those it would catch on since it really is better!

For the ultimate informed consent birth books get "The Thinking Woman's Guide to a Better Birth" by Henci Goer. Some people may think Goer is too radical but she backs up all her recommendations with great studies and explanations.

I did have this book and I did read it. But I found it pretty lacking in terms of pregnancy and birth info. I mainly read it for the week by week updates on me and baby rather than as a comprehensive guide. I did not find it scary. Maybe I entered into my pregnancy knowing a bit more about it than the average mom but I already knew what conditions were rare, odds of the others and all that stuff. It was nice to have the info on complications, imo. I think if you worry easily that you would be better off with one of the books I mentioned earlier.

Not an accurate book..., April 2, 2000
Although I am a registered nurse with a bachelor's degree, my specialty is telemetry and not maternal/child, so I sought a book by an expert that would supply me with vital information I didn't have concerning my pregnancy.

After reading the reviews here, I decided to buy this book over others. I was very disappointed after reading through the first half of the book, and not being able to continue because the book is so awful. It was really inaccurate, for example the grossly exaggerated claims about body temperature, the timelime for alpha fetoprotien tests ... and certain pieces of information that were actually true and important were in oddly misplaced sections. For instance, the discussion of caffiene, the advice on shopping for a new bra, the discussion on breast tenderness... all of those things were discussed way too late in the book. Caffiene should be avoided or cut to a minimum extremely early, not in the fourth month.

My physician, who is a board certified OB/GYN and chief of staff of that dept. at the hospital, has instructed me that it is healthy to get exercise if you are a healthy person with a normal, healthy pregnancy. Doing exercise would certainly raise body temperature, and according to this physician's brief discussion of body temperature, you would be putting your fetus at risk. That's just one example, there's more that I can't get into with the limited space available.

If I could, I would get a refund on this book. I wouldn't recommend it to anybody. You're better off reading literature that your physician supplies to you, such as the magazines and pamphlets.

Paranoid Pregnancy, July 8, 1999
A friend gave me this book when I learned I was expecting. Being someone who wants to be well-informed of what I might expect, I welcomed it. However, when I'd sit down every week, counting week by week, and read what joys, yes, and risks, exist, I found this book HIGHLY unnecessarily negative and focused on what seems will probably go wrong. Glade Curtis, ending each weekly chapter (and reading each weekly chapter started out as a joyous ritual to me) with subjects like hydrocephalic babies, chlamydia, teratogens, whatever could POSSIBLY go wrong, has caused my husband to hide the book to keep me from reading what charming thoughts Dr. Curtis might have for me, in what should be a positive and hopeful experience. I am NO pollyanna, wanting only hugs & good news. BUT this author has created a book highlighting your worst nightmares about pregnancy, and particularly effective, he chooses to end each chapter with the most horrible news you could be looking forward to hearing each week.

Anyone who finds this book just "telling it like it is" must enjoy wallowing in her own paranoia. Find another book, written in an honest, truthful manner, but one that allows you to keep whatever positive thoughts and energies you might enjoy.

Started out okay, became alarmist, inaccurate, September 14, 2003
I bought this book when I found out I was pregnant and the first weeks were interesting. Lately, though, the book has really gone downhill and I wouldn't recommend it to ANYONE. It should be called "Problems in Pregnancy, Week by Week." And the tone is very condescending and doctor-centric.

In these later weeks it describes very rare problems as if they are going to be an issue for everyone. For example, in week 33, there's a small section for how big the baby and mother might be, on average. That's fun. Then there's a section called "How Your Baby Is Growing and Developing" and it goes right into a description of Placental Abruption, complete with a drawing of that unfortunate and unlikely event. No description of how most women and babies will be growing and changing this week - just this rare problem.

Then there's a section called "Changes in You", but in a similar way, no description of what happens in a normal pregnancy at this stage, they just describe what happens if your water breaks, which would be very unusual and troubling at this time.

Oh brother, and then there's a section called "You Should Also Know" that describes how necessary episiotomies are, and how beneficial they are, which is complete bunk. It's almost always better to tear than to be cut, and it's better to do research and be educated than to sheepishly follow a doctor's every whim.

And all this is only one week! Lately, they're all like this! Week 31 it was all about Intrauterine Growth Retardation, Week 30 featured a big drawing and description of umbilical cord knots. It's good to have some knowledge about these problems, but it should be in a book about problems in pregnancy, and the information should be more thorough and accurate. To have a little week by week guide of everything that can go wrong in a pregnancy is not fun, or helpful, and I'm putting this book away today.

Fun, but contains misinformation, December 27, 2005
This is a fun book for a first time mom insofar as it provides information about how big baby is and how he is developing. But do not rely on this book for accurate medical information regarding pregnancy, labor, or birth. There are several instances of factually incorrect information, for example, stating that routine episotomy is beneficial. Every other book I have read (at least a dozen others) have provided the exact opposite information. The book is good, and I have enjoyed reading it, but I am glad I have other sources of accurate information (that actually site to studies rather than just making upsupported statements). ... Read more

Editorial Review

Once upon a time Martians and Venusians met, fell in love, and had happy relationships together because they respected and accepted their differences. Then they came to Earth and amnesia set in: they forgot they were from different planets.

Based on years of successful counseling of couples and individuals, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus has helped millions of couples transform their relationships. Now viewed as a modern classic, this phenomenal book has helped men and women realize how different they really are and how to communicate their needs in such a way that conflict doesn't arise and intimacy is given every chance to grow.

Editorial Review

Pregnancy, Childbirth, and the Newborn: The Complete Guide is already one of the bestselling pregnancy books on the market, with more than one million copies in print! Now newly revised and redesigned, this comprehensive, authoritative “bible” provides expectant couples with abundant, valuable information about pregnancy, labor, birth, the postpartum period, and newborn care.

This award-winning book presents the latest research-based information on pregnancy, birth, and early parenthood, including:

•   New information on complementary-medicine approaches such as acupuncture

•   Updated information on interventions during childbirth

•   Revised statistics and discussions on cesarean birth and vaginal birth after cesarean (VBAC)

•   New advice on informed decision-making, one of the hottest topics in maternity care today

•   Plus much, much more!

The book has been redesigned so it’s more accessible and reader-friendly, with more photos, illustrations, and boxed features that allow for important information to be highlighted. Also included in the new design are fun and informative sidebars, such as “Common Q&As” about pregnancy, childbirth, and newborn care; “In Their Own Words,” in which parents describe their pregnancy, childbirth, and early parenting experiences from their point of view; and “Fact or Fiction?” in which the authors present common misinformation and the facts. New to this edition is an accompanying website, www.PCNGuide.com, where readers can find additional maternity care information as well as helpful forms and worksheets. ... Read more

Reviews

Everything and More!, October 29, 2010
While looking through pregnancy books, I got tired of reading about how you got a second line, got sick, got fat, and squeezed out your "bundle of joy." What about the reality of the situation and how exactly that "bundle of joy" finds its way out of me and into this world?

I could not be happier with my purchase of this book. It starts with a few chapters on the typical progression of mother and baby during pregnancy. It includes exercise and diet tips (with pictures) for pregnant women. There is a chapter on complications during pregnancy as well as one on how to plan for a birth. Birth plans are discussed in good detail, as well as interview questions for your OB/Midwife/Doula. In fact, there are different lists for each of those. Although doulas are discussed, this book does not assume you will have either a medicated or a natural birth. Those decisions are left to you.

There are several chapters on labor and delivery. It was extremely informational to learn about the different "stages" and how they progress, as well as positions and situations to help ease the pain during each of these stages. I feel like I'm much more informed about labor now than with any other resource I've come across. Does the phrase "perineal stretches" sound familiar? It does now!

The final few chapters review what to do once the baby enters the world. How do you breastfeed? How do you position your child? How many times should you feed each day and how many wet/poopy diapers should you expect? What are some common causes for concern? Answers to all of these questions are provided, as well as illustrations for breastfeeding, holding your newborn, etc.

There are a few paragraphs scattered throughout this book for Dads, but this book is not geared directly towards men. I'm sure they would find it very informative, although the squeamish ones might shy away.

I give this book four thumbs up (two from me, two from my baby in utero). I finally feel like I am better informed. This book respects you as a mother and aims to give you information in a very easy readable format.

I cannot recommend this book highly enough!

Very comprehensive and easy to read!, October 23, 2010
This book covers all the bases for first time moms and approaches interventions in childbirth in an unbiased way so that parents can come to their own decisions about mom and baby's care. I would highly recommend this book over What to Expect When Expecting!

Essential!, September 21, 2010
We were very fortunate in that we got to take our childbirth class from Penny Simkin. This book was used throughout and I can honestly say that I learned more from this book than I have from the 4 other books I purchased. It is laid out very well and easy to follow. Her use of sections and chapters makes it so that you can hop around. I have this book next to our couch so that whenever I have a question, I just pull it out.

It is truly one of the best pregnancy books I have owned.

a must read, November 15, 2010
I read this book for my postpartum doula certification and it is wonderful. Very informative and well written. I wish I had known about it when I had my own children. ... Read more

Editorial Review

Fresh, wholesome meals that give little mouths something to smile about...

In The Petit Appetit Cookbook, mother and professional cook Lisa Barnes offers a healthy all-organic alternative to commercially processed, preservative-filled foods to help create delicious menus, nurture adventurous palates, and begin a lifetime of positive eating habits for children.

Includes:

- 150+ easy, fast, child-tested recipes for ages 4 months to 4 years
- Mealtime solutions for even the most finicky eaters
- Nutritional information for each recipe
- Time-saving cooking techniques
- The right age- and stage-appropriate food choices
- How and when to introduce solids to baby's diet
- Adapting family recipes for young children
- Recognizing signs of food allergies and intolerances ... Read more

Reviews

Easy and informative, April 29, 2006
I bought this book along with Baby Blender Food, and I really like this one the best. It has practical information RE: safe food handling, the meaning behind nutritional and organic terms on product packaging, suggestions for stocking your pantry, and ideas about how to incorporate meals for the family from the recipes for the baby. It's not rocket science, but sometimes I get caught up in the baby food process and don't think about how to modify some of the ingredients for my own meal. She also has a helpful key that lists vegetarian, vegan, gluten-free recipe options. The recipes are pretty simple, and I've found that it's easy and fun to make food for my son. It also feels really good to know exactly what's going into his food. I like the layout of the book, and I appreciate the information in it. Another review mentioned that she doesn't outline food hazards like nitrates in the body of the recipes, but if you read the book from the beginning, she has pretty comprehensive explanations of what is safe to prepare and when it's safe to prepare it.

A must-have!, May 7, 2006
I borrowed this book from my local library, to test a few of the recipes. I am very impressed! Every recipe that I've tried has turned out absolutely delicious! The book begins with an informative section about the meanings behind the buzz word "organic," and the recipes are neatly organized according to age (in case one needs a guideline). The author has even included little labels that point out which recipes are vegan, vegetarian, and allergy friendly.

As a very picky mom with little patience for recipes that take too long/don't turn out, I highly recommend this book and have purchased my own copy. The recipes are not only delicious, they are easy and pretty foolproof! And nothing can top the feeling I get when watching my little boy hungrily gulp down a meal I prepared just for him....eager for each spoonfull. The recipes aren't just yummy for babies either......I made some of the recipes for my teenage sisters, and they ate every last bite! If you purchase this book, you won't be disappointed!

Raising a future "foodie", March 5, 2006
I've had a chance to make zucchini and butternut squash purees for my 6 month-old and so far so good! I like that the recipies give you an option for how to cook each recipie, for example, you can either steam or microwave zucchini. Also, you can use a blender or food processer for most dishes. The book also gives really clear instructions for saving food for later. I put the squash in ice cube trays; it is so easy to pop a "cube" into the microwave. If you have an automatic ice maker and don't have any ice cube trays on hand, I highly recommend buying silicone trays. You can even buy pink ones from Sur La Table (www.surlatable.com). Cubes come out cleanly with no fragments left in the tray. Get this cookbook if you want a little work on the weekend with the rest of the week as easy as opening a jar! The only down side I can think of is she is not as explicit about foods to avoid because of allergies or nitrates (spinach, carrots, etc.) on the recipe pages.

Wonderful book, February 24, 2006
I was looking for a comprehensive book to help me get started making my own baby food. I invested in three books and this by far was the best. It has a wealth of information from preparing your kitchen and necessary tools to definitions of organic food to very friendly recipes. The best part is that there are variations for all of the recipes including microwave directions. They are very easy to make and do not require tons of time or a master chef. I love this book and would recommend it to anyone looking for a good book to get started making baby food.

Overall Disappointment, July 16, 2007
I did not find this book particularly helpful. I was disappointed and surprised by the contradictions I found in this book. For example the author clearly states, "Never feed a child less than one year honey". However, in a recipe that she claims is appropriate for a 9-12 month old baby, she lists honey as one of the ingredients. The author lists several foods under "Foods To Avoid" like wheat, soy, and egg whites because they are potential allergens. However, these ingredients are used liberally in her recipes (for babies as young as 6 months) and there is no recommendation or instructions on how to introduce these potential allergens to your baby singly before you serve it to him/her in a complex recipe.
These contradictions make me question the rest of the instructions and advice in this book. The author has no medical or dietetic background (at least none listed in the "About the Author" section). There is also a lack of citations from medical professionals.

Wonderful Book and Gift!, July 23, 2007
This book is great! Not only do I cook from it for my own family, but I keep coming back to buy it for all my friends who are expecting.

Everyone has their own opinions; however I disagree with the reviewer who said the book has contradictions. I couldn't find a recipe with honey in it until the 12 - 24 month chapter. In fact it's the Graham Crackers which is one of my two year old's favorites. The author outlines cautions about allergies and explains how to introduce single food items. Also the book cautions the reader about these potential allergens and differing advice (amongst pediatricians) as to when to introduce. I find the first chapter "Using This Book" very helpful for information about baby's stage of development, instead of the age. So I can decide when my child is ready for a new food based on her actions and eating habits. There's always the suggestion of talking about diet and nutrition with your own pediatrician too.

For a cookbook I was satisfied with the medical references, including Ellyn Satter, who is a wonderful author and nutritionist (a big favorite of mine). Plus a lactation consultant even wrote the forward.

I hope other parents buy the book and give the recipes a try before judging. You and your family will be glad you did.

Practical and Creative, January 23, 2006
My plan was for my daughter to join with the family for meals once she was ready. I was a bit intimidated with making my own food though. This book made it very simple and had so many creative recipes and suggestions. I have not bought a single jar of food yet and she will soon be eating the same food as the rest of us. I intend to continue to use some of these recipes.
I don't know how successful I would have been had I not found this book. Thank you!

Highly recommended, September 29, 2005
I love this book and have recommended it to a couple of friends. The information on what to introduce at different stages is wonderful and the recipes seem easy enough. My baby is only 8 months old, so I've only tried a few. Most recipes call for a food processer, but I've had the same results using a blender.

A Great Book to End a Long Search, January 15, 2007
I did an epic search for a baby food cookbook before finding The Petit Appetit. There are an abundance of recipies in a great layout. Plenty of info on storage and preparation too. It is by far my favorite for the simple, easy, and nutritious meals!

Best Baby/Toddler Food CookBook!, March 13, 2005
This book is great! It's newly released in 2005, so the information is up to date about what are potential allergens. There's a list about what types of fish are safe to eat and what not to eat due to mercury. The nutritional data is provided with all recipes. This is especially good since we have a little one who is on the lighter side. The recipes are quick and simple. She also has a bunch of recipes that are vegan, wheat/gluten free and those with out eggs. And as the little one gets older, there are recipes that can be enjoyed by the whole family. All recipes use organic ingredients, but it's not a must. She gives a list of resources as to where to purchase the poducts. I would reccomend this book and purchase it for my friends who are ecpecting! ... Read more

Editorial Review

Now in paperback! Here is the book that updates the rulebook, giving parents the training and skills they need to transform their teenage children into strong, confident, productive adults. ... Read more

Editorial Review

The relationship classic hailed by Erica Jong as "life-
changing" -- now updated with a new introduction
and resource section!

The #1 New York Times bestseller that asks
ARE YOU A WOMAN WHO LOVES TOO MUCH?

• Do you find yourself attracted again and again to troubled, distant, moody men -- while "nice guys" seem boring?
• Do you obsess over men who are emotionally unavailable, addicted to work, hobbies, alcohol, or other women?
• Do you neglect your friends and your own interests to be immediately available to him?
• Do you feel empty without him, even though being with him is torment?

Robin Norwood's groundbreaking work will enable you to recognize the roots of your destructive patterns of relating and provide you with a step-by-step guide to a more rewarding way of living and loving.

If being in love means being in pain, you need to read Women Who Love Too Much. ... Read more

Reviews

THIS BOOK IS A GIFT FROM GOD!!, August 18, 1999
Women Who Love Too Much has totally changed my entire life. I have been in search of a committed relationship for years. I have ended up in abusive, degrading relationships and had no idea how or why; more importantly, how to get out of the pattern. This book literally had my name on every page. It gives real life examples of people the author has counselled. I was able to identify with every one of them. It was so easy to see what was not working for those women when I read their stories. It is always so hard to see yourself and your own mistakes. While reading the book, I was able to clearly define moments in my life when I made mistakes, and then learned what other options there were to those situations. I was able to dissect my entire life to see when and where I learned certain "ways of being" especially in intimate relationships. Ways that were addictive and I could not stop myself. I read several sections over and over until I got every last word and could apply it to my life. The book has a section at the end that teaches you steps you can take to alter current patterns to make yourself well and strong.

I have always been extremely independent, extremely successful in business, popular, beautiful, smart and I make a lot of money. None of this had anything to do with the patterns imprinted on me from childhood that had me choose men who could not love me if they really tried. It is quite ironic. I always attracted gorgeous, successful, popular men, so you would think everything was great. But they did not love themselves and many of their own issues stemming from childhood disabled them to love someone else and treat them well. These were the only types of men I sought out and did not know it. By practicing what is taught in the book and being extremely determined (it is hard work) to take care of me first and not lose myself in a relationship, I was able to turn the whole thing around. I now have the most wonderful man on the planet. We are getting engaged and plan to be married in March of 2000. I feel as though I was blessed from the heavens. He treats me with respect, always thinks of me, does not make demands and simply is my best friend. It can actually be quite scary at times. I am so used to being the one that has to give everything.

There is another very important point I would like to make. I have a 13 year old son (I am only 32). By reading the book and applying the stories to my life and what I went through as a child and how my parents and others treated me, I was able to see how I was repeating some of those patterns with my son. At first this was beyond disturbing. I could not believe that the things that hurt me so terribly when I was young, I was now repeating. The thought that my son might grow up to be one of those men that I had dated, or worse yet, take on the same behaviors I did in an addictive relationship, was horrifying. When reading the book, I also applied the same life examination to my relationship with my son. I have altered our relationship drastically and am looking forward to raising him to be a happy, healthy man that will treat women with love, affection and support. I am giving this book to all of my friends (some men) and family for Christmas. To me, it is the greatest gift you can give someone.

It's changed my life, February 5, 2000
I received a copy of this book from an ex-boyfriend. He said he's never done much for me before but this will make up for all of it. He told me to read it and I thought I'd glance through it quickly. I sat down and read the first and second chapters and thought that Robin Norwood wrote about me. I was shocked that she knew so much about me! I got out a highlighter and started again. It seemed that almost every other sentence was being highlighted. It was frightening. This was my life and he wasn't an alcoholic! The problem was me. That was 15 years ago. I am still buying copies because I keep having to give mine away to other dear girlfriends (and a couple of guys too). It teaches you a new way of looking at yourself and treating yourself. I thought I didn't have the time to read it, but instead I know now that I cannot afford not to read it and cannot afford not to share it with other women and men. Yes, men also love too much too, in the way that Robin defines. I read the book in two days. I could not put it down. It was so wise. You cannot change your upbringing, but you can change your future. If Robin Norwood reads this, I want to thank her so much for all that she has done for me and for my friends.

This book changed my life., June 26, 1999
Do you keep hoping that if you just love him enough he'll change? Are you putting up with unacceptable behavior, just hoping he'll wake up and become that person you know he could be? If so, read this book. Perhaps you have been focusing too much on him. This book helped me understand my part in the sad relationship I was in. It made me aware of decisions I had made that got me to that state - decisions I was barely conscious (or unconscious) of making at the time. WIthout knowing it, I had operated most of my life with an assumption that I didn't deserve a relationship with an emotionally healthy man and that any man who was really healthy would not be interested in me. So I kept getting in relationships with men who had problems - problems I then tried to love them enough to fix. I thought if I just loved him enough, he would reciprocate by loving me enough. But it never worked. This one book taught me as much about myself as a year in therapy. WIth awareness came the possibility for change - and I have changed. This book was an important piece of the puzzle for me and played an important role in my becoming a much healthier, happier person.

This book changed my life, February 26, 1998
After breaking up with someone whom I thought was "the one", I read this book on the suggestion of a friend. I immediately recognized in myself the same patterns described in the book: I was always "falling in love" with the men who were distant in some way, where I ended up "loving" the guy more than he loved me, always hoping that he would change. (Yes, HE was always the problem). Through reading this book in conjunction with working with a therapist, I learned how to focus on myself and my own feelings, getting to the core of the past issues which lead me to think so poorly of myself. I learned to love myself and how to wait for a man who would love, respect and appreciate me. I am now happily married to a man whom I love "just the way he is". I suggest this book to anyone who has been in unhealthy relationships and for those who keep waiting for another's indecisive (regarding committment), disrespectful or abusive behavior to change.

Changed My Life, February 22, 2001
As with many of the reviews I've read, this book changed my life as well. I kept choosing the same type of relationship over and over again, and didn't realize what I was doing. When I read this book I finally understood how I choose the people in my life, and it opened my eyes to an entirely new way of relating to myself and to others.

I was amazed at how my mind continued to recreate my childhood in order to 'fix' it, when that is not the healthy way to fix things. This started me on me on the road to recovering from codependency, and I realized that my happiness was in my own hands. I believe it's in her preface where she says "If being in love means being in pain, you are loving too much." That was my history, and it spurred me to read the rest of the book. I can spot these traits in other people so well now it's amazing. We chose our friends. We create our lives. And my happiness is dependent on no one but myself. No longer will I continue to blame my parnter for my unhappiness. Though I spent a great deal of time letting this concept sink in, now it is a part of my belief system, and I a grateful for it.

Excellent book, I cannot thank Robin Norwood enough, for I feel like she saved my life.

This book is a must . . ., August 24, 2000
... for women who can't understand how & why they keep getting stuck in relationships where they are taken for granted or abused. I was given a copy of this book in 1993 by the bank officer who helped me open my bank account when my marriage was falling apart and this book changed my life!

It had such an impact on me that ever since, as soon as I realize that any of my female associates & friends are in these types of destructive relationships, this is the book I buy for them. I've probably bought this book 20 times in the last 7 years . . . I gave up on lending it out, and just buy my friends a copy, because I never get mine back!

To Robin Norwood, thank you for putting into words what I needed to hear & opening my eyes 7 years ago. My life has totally changed for the better & I am now in a wonderful relationship. (Ladies, there are good ones out there! Don't settle for less!) There have been bumps along the way, but I will always have my trusty well-worn copy of the book to remind me that *I* can change this pattern forever!

unhappy in a relationship?, February 23, 2005
letting a man in your life treat you like crap and bending over backwards to make him happy? oh boy, do you need this book.. helped me understand why i seek emotionally unavailable men and then suffer for it.. taught me a few lessons on what NOT to do, raising my son.. it was also an important step in the process of selfrealization that helped me get over my ex husband cheating on me. i recommend to every woman.

So close to home it was painful (but necessary), June 30, 2002
I first read this book years ago after a painful divorce. Fast forward 8 years, and here I am in the same situation yet again with a different man. When I first read this book, I did not take the information in it to heart, probably because it struck too close to home for me so I denied the truth in it. This time, with two children to raise, my recovery is absolutely essential, so I forced myself to read it and remember and deal with it. This book is absolutely on target for any woman who endured a painful, demoralizing childhood. Robin Norwood explains exactly why it affects us into adulthood (and for us it's much different than for men -- she explains this, too), why we keep choosing painful, debilitating relationships and why we can't walk away from them even when the pain is literally destroying us. I highlighted so much of this book to re-read and study later that my highlighting pen almost gave out. The book explains how we actually get addicted to pain and chaos, and why we choose the types of men we do, and why we're terrified to lose even a disastrous relationship. It also looks at how we hide the truth from ourselves and why. If you fit the description of a woman whose childhood was shredded by the pain of a highly dysfunctional family, and now you keep landing in one unhealthy relationship after another with men, this book will definitely help you, but you also must find a good therapist. You WILL heal in time, but you have to step out into the unknown and stick with it. As Robin Norwood so beautifully points out, with this type of love addiction,your future is sure to be painful no matter what. But it can either be the temporary pain associated with dealing with your problems and your subsequent recovery, or it can be the same kind of pain you've got now, magnified over years and years. Identifying your problem is the first step in solving it. This book will help you do that.

A gift of pages!!!!, April 14, 2001
I am a 29 year old gay male.You may think to yourself "How can this book be of any help and use to him?" "Women Who Love Too Much" has been a life-saver for me,having recently come out of an unhealthy relationship.

I am unashamed to say that i was the more "unhealthy person" in that relationship but at the same time,the book gave me tremendous insight as to how unhealthy my partner was.

My therapist suggested that i read the book,explaining that the dynamics of relationship are much the same,whether they be homosexual or heterosexual.Please don`t ignore what i have said in this review because my lifestyle is alternative.

You who are reading this review,may know somebody close to you who is lesbian or gay.Do they "love too much",are they in an unhealthy relationship,are they in desperate need of help?Whatever their situation may be and most likely it is an unpleasant one,"Women Who Love Too Much" is a definite beginning to heal the pain.

I will forever be grateful for having read this book and with no doubt,will keep on reading it.The knowledge,understanding and insecurities i have gained about myself is the knowledge that will steer me in the direction of a truthful,happy and healthy relationship.

Thank you Robin Norwood,where-ever you may be in this world.

Every woman should read this powerful book!, December 7, 1998
I had been living in despair after I had broken up with my ex six months ago. Having suffered from serious depression and frustration, i luckily found this book in a local bookshop. I was so shocked as soon as i turned to read the Preface on which the author says "When being in love means being in pain we are loving too much"! Hey! this was exactly what i had been feeling about my love life! Quickly, i spent a week to finish this book and found that WOMEN WHO LOVE TOO MUCH is definitely the most powerful and wonderful book (not merely a self-help book!) i have ever read! Surprisingly insightful, powerfully written with style, i suggest every woman in the world, esp those who love too much like myself, should read it at least once in their life time, so that they can build up themselves and enjoy a healthier relationship with their partners and, most importantly, with themselves! ... Read more